Any word can offend him, a minor failure can make him cry, and a small quarrel can lead to serious moral injury. What is a very sensitive person called? What do you call a vulnerable person and what is behind these experiences? Why is the state of mind of some people so precarious?

An individual with a subtle mental organization, sensitive to everything that happens in life, is called - sentimental person. This characteristic is most often referred to as a character trait. Moreover, both congenital and acquired.

What is a vulnerable person called - who are these people?

It is believed that sentimental people are, first of all, creative personalities. Representatives of art professions: artists, writers, stylists, fashion designers. It is these people who are able to notice little things and attach great importance to them.

Sentimentality is directly and most obviously observed among female representatives.

A vulnerable person can be identified from the very early years. It is extremely rare that this character trait changes during life; most likely, only its concealment is possible.

By the way, guys like to wear “anti-sentimentality” masks. However, very often behind the stone face there can be a completely soft, trembling personality.

Why is a sentimental person - reasons for deep sensitivity

As it was written earlier, sentimentality is a trait that is determined in a person from birth. However, there are cases when the characteristic comes over the years. This may be due to several factors:

• A serious shock, an event affecting loved ones or one’s own personality;
• Midlife crisis, rethinking life, investments, years lived;
• Hormonal imbalances, pregnancy, puberty.

By the way, a shaky, sensitive state of mind is not something shameful or bad. As a rule, vulnerable people are more “humane”, attentive and sensitive to what is happening around them.

In this article we will talk about the problems, features, and advantages that are characteristic of highly sensitive people. And this information will most likely change your life. You will experience relief that you could not find for many years in therapy, trainings, spiritual practices, books, and periodically found yourself on the verge of despair or in deep depression. Realize that you are not alone, that there is nothing wrong with you and high sensitivity can serve for good.

The main problems of highly sensitive people

I have identified 8 such problems and you will probably recognize yourself in them if you are a highly sensitive person.

1. Highly sensitive people - white crows. Most likely, you were that child who was different from the rest. You were a little shy of other children and didn’t quite understand how to communicate with them.
2. You adapt to the world . You have a feeling inside that you don’t have the right to show your real self. You do not show your true nature, you mimic and pretend that you are the same as everyone else. Although inside you know that you are different. And most likely you live with this all your life. And it hurts to talk about it.
3. You have problems associated with guilt. You are afraid of offending and disturbing other people; it is inconvenient for you to disturb them. You are a very sensitive and tactful person. And often, this makes it very difficult for you to communicate with people and express yourself the way you would like.
4. Strongly Developed Ideals, perceptions and stereotypes. They are almost always associated with a feeling of shame. You have many ideals and concepts that you must live up to. But usually, you don't live up to these ideal ideas about yourself. This makes you very ashamed and difficult, because you are constantly aware that you do not fit different criteria ideal person. Because of this, you also have many difficulties.
5. You susceptible to other people's moods. You worry a lot when your loved ones feel bad. Your experiences do not allow you to express yourself as you would like. Often when your to a loved one bad, you also feel bad, as if you absorb his state and mood.
6. This problem is very big, it is also typical for me. You you quickly get tired of others and from communicating with them. Many people can communicate for hours on end and feel great about it. You and I run out of steam much faster, especially if it’s empty chatter. Sometimes we meet people, communicate with them, and then we realize that we are incredibly tired, but it is inconvenient to leave - a feeling of guilt.
7. Difficulty making decisions. You try to avoid making mistakes more than others. You are looking for many solutions, trying to calculate your actions, predict the result. But the problem is that the more options appear, the more difficult the choice itself becomes. Therefore, we very often get stuck in making decisions and slow down actions, because this applies not only to significant decisions, but also to simple, everyday ones.
8. You have a hard time with rejection, criticism and negativity. You are like a bare wire. This has a lot to do with your feelings of guilt and shame. After all, you do not live up to your ideals, which you have absorbed since childhood. And it’s hard for you when someone criticizes you and your actions. Even the smallest phrase or comment can hurt you.

If all of the above, or at least partly, applies to you, you are where you need to be. We will help you reconfigure your actions and habits so that these problems are not so difficult for you. Here you will finally get to know your real self.

Features of highly sensitive people

In this part of the article you will learn about four the most important features highly sensitive people. Features are something neutral, they are not problems, they are not pros and cons, they are simply our distinctive properties, from which advantages and disadvantages follow.

Feature No. 1. Depth of information processing

This means that you look at the essence of things. Remember the phrase “look to the root”? This is about you. You see some patterns that other people don't see or need to concentrate or think about especially hard. You are focused on understanding the essence of things.

Some of you may even have a philosophical mindset. You want to understand some deep meaning, what lies inside. You process information at a special depth. Therefore, you are not interested in chatting about anything and superficial conversations.

Feature No. 2. Increased irritability of the senses

This results in your getting tired quickly. It is for this reason that it is difficult for you to be constantly in some kind of parties, it is difficult to talk for a long time, it is difficult when there are a lot of impressions, events during the day, when there is noise and bright light around you, and there are always some distractions present.

You have a particularly acute stress response because your senses are highly irritable and sensitive. It's just a property.

Feature No. 3. Increased attention to detail and nuances

It happens by itself, you don’t have to do anything for it. You simply think in detail and see in detail. If many people see the situation as a whole, then you see everything in detail, you perceive any information in detail. You just scan these details and nuances, some small parts that are inaccessible to most people.

That's why we became psychologists, because we hear nuances, we hear details that most people don't pay attention to. To ordinary people it’s imperceptible, they ignore it, but you notice and notice it very well. You see much more of some small details, features, strokes, nuances and similar things.

Feature No. 4. Increased emotional reactivity

It can be either external or internal. This means that we highly sensitive people feel things more intensely. We feel everything strongly, we are captured by our feelings. More than half of people consider themselves to be insensitive people in general. For us, feelings play a fairly large role.

Perhaps at some point in your life you thought that your feelings were bothering you and decided to give them up. And from that moment on, you most likely started having problems. This happens to many highly sensitive people.

I want you to understand that feelings are yours strong point. You feel more subtly and sharply than most people. Moreover, you feel not only your own, but also someone else’s. In our brain there is a large number of mirror neurons that make us empathize with other people. We feel someone else's pain, we feel someone else's joy, someone else's grief, both good and bad other people's states. And this is our property.

So, I told you 4 properties of highly sensitive people - depth of information processing, increased irritability, increased attention to detail and nuances, and increased emotionality.

Accordingly, from these four features, which in themselves are neutral, our disadvantages, our problems, which I spoke about earlier, flow from them, and our advantages, our strengths, which we will talk about later in this article, also flow from them.

Continue to the next section, it will be about your strengths that have always been with you. Perhaps you didn't notice them or didn't know how to use them.

Benefits of Highly Sensitive People

We have already talked about the characteristic HF characteristics and what troubles they mean. However, just like every coin has two sides, disadvantages can be turned into advantages. And there is no one more effective and cooler than a pumped-up HSP.

High sensitivity implies a number of advantages that we have over ordinary people.

Benefit #1: Empathy

The ability to deeply empathize with people, to feel what is happening to them emotionally. It is necessary in such professions as doctor, teacher, psychologist, salesman.

Not to mention that it is very useful to feel people: not to run into an irritated boss, “feel” a favorable state and ask for something in this mood, to support a loved one. After all, people so often need support and silent understanding.

Advantage #2: High Consciousness and Conscientiousness

We cannot do things halfway, and if we take on a task, we give ourselves completely to it. Wise leaders appreciate this. And a fanatical attitude towards your favorite business cannot but lead to success.

Benefit #3: Attention to detail

Highly sensitive people are able to notice and see something elusive, which a common person won't pay attention.

We sense errors and shortcomings more subtly and strive to eliminate them, which makes the result closer to ideal. The main thing here is not to fall into perfectionism, but you most likely already know how to deal with it.

Benefit #4: Focus

The ability to concentrate and delve deeply into the process is another of our superpowers. Don't distract the HSP and he will produce amazing results.

Benefit #5: Depth of Perception

Highly sensitive people process information at deeper levels of memory. We do not like superficial perception - we are able to analyze the information received more deeply.Most likely, during your studies it was difficult for you to cram and memorize, but if you understood and delved into it, then there were no problems with memorization.

Benefit #6: Deep Analytical Thinking

Attention to detail, ability to concentrate and depth of perception together form a quality that deserves separate consideration. The combination of these qualities allows you to effectively perform tasks that require attentiveness combined with speed and accuracy. We see cause-and-effect relationships very subtly, which makes highly sensitive people excellent analysts.

Perhaps the last couple of points caused you some resistance, because... you give the impression of an inattentive person and you yourself are one

you think. However, this is not entirely true: the attention of an HSP is more tenacious - it is more focused on details and thus you are distracted by them.

Benefit #7: Learning and Curiosity

We Highly Sensitive People are constantly learning, even when we don't mean to.

We are constantly developing and improving - we experience an irresistible need for this. And the curiosity and inquisitiveness of the mind does not allow our brains to “rust”.

Benefit #8: Reflection and Analysis of Past Experiences

HSPs are able to think and ponder for a long time. Your past, plan your future, calculate your options.

We think about our behavior: whether we acted or said the right thing in a given situation, how we reacted and why. If you do not turn this into self-digging and self-criticism, then this quality can help you avoid many future mistakes and not dance on the old rake.

As you can see, you and I have many useful and unique abilities that are inaccessible to ordinary people.

High sensitivity is not a curse, but a huge potential for pumping and development.

High sensitivity is not fantasy, it is in our biological nature

Friends, next we will briefly talk about some studies regarding high sensitivity. This is where the big problem lies, because when I tell you about high sensitivity, you may have objections. And you say that this, of course, looks like me, but maybe this is just an idea, this is not serious, and these are my fantasies.

Indeed, such a thought appears. I want you to understand that your high sensitivity is not just a thought or fantasy. This is inherent in your biological nature.

Evidence of high sensitivity

I will tell you about several scientific studies so that you can be convinced that this is really true, it is your genetic and physiological feature, and not just a fantasy. That is, you really are like that and you really belong to a special category of people.

Evidence No. 1.High sensitivity exists, and we find confirmation of this in studies that were carried out on newborn children. That is, an adult can fantasize himself and simply say that he is highly sensitive, but a baby cannot yet come up with anything about himself. Certain experiments were carried out on newborn children, they changed the taste of water, etc. 15-20% of children showed increased sensitivity to such changes.

Evidence No. 2.In the USA, studies were conducted using magnetic resonance imaging. People were placed in a CT scanner and shown photographs of other people experiencing positive and negative emotions. Research has shown that the brain of a highly sensitive person is more sensitive to other people's emotions. The tomogram showed very clearly that in highly sensitive people the response in the brain when seeing photographs is much stronger than in ordinary people.

Evidence No. 3.Rhesus monkeys (Macaca mulatta) have a special gene that can also be found in highly sensitive people. As a result of this gene, less serotonin is produced in our brains and in the brains of monkeys. Accordingly, there is generally less serotonin in the brain. This is our distinctive physiological feature. Scientists have determined that a special gene that is inherited is responsible for this. High sensitivity is an innate human property. This is considered with a high degree of probability.

Evidence No. 4.In America, telephone surveys were conducted. People were randomly selected, they were called on the phone and asked how sensitive they were. More than half of the respondents (the sample was completely random) said that they were completely insensitive. And only about 20% said they were very sensitive. This is statistical evidence that highly sensitive people are a special group.

Evidence No. 5.Scientists note that high sensitivity is also characteristic of other animal species. Moreover, if you try, you can arrange selection, that is, take highly sensitive individuals and cross them. After some time, a separate highly sensitive breed of organisms will be developed.

This is another confirmation so that you don’t think that this is some kind of fiction. You and I are highly sensitive people. This separate category of people. High sensitivity is due to our nature, our biology, our physiology, and it is written in our genes.

I hope this news brings you joy and helps you connect even more easily with who you truly are, always have been, and always will be.

It is useless to fight your feelings and emotions; you must learn to use them for peaceful purposes. I hope with our help you will learn to cope with this much better, because we are HSPs ourselves. We had big serious problems, we are psychologists, we learned to cope with it. And we can help you with this.

Incredible facts

Almost all of us have met highly sensitive people in our lives.

We know that with such people you need to be especially careful with your words, as you never know how they will react.

Recent studies have shown that approximately 15-20 percent of people are hypersensitive. However, many do not know what this means.

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Often hypersensitive people are classified as introverts, but this is not the same thing. These people are sensitive to many things, from pain to caffeine consumption.

Often this type of person has a number of habits and characteristics.

1. Your feelings are much deeper than usual.

Such people experience everything on a deeper level. They have good intuition and try to get to the bottom of things.

2. You're better at spotting lies.

You could be a good detective not only because of your good intuition and attention to detail, but also because you are good at picking up nonverbal gestures that most people may not notice.

3. You like to study alone

Most of these people always feel like someone is looking at them. They feel much more comfortable alone, away from the scrutiny of others.

4. You take a long time to make decisions

Highly sensitive people take longer to make decisions. They overthink things a lot more because they are aware of all the little details and weigh all the possible consequences.

5. You notice details first

You will be the first to notice others have a new T-shirt and the slightest change in the weather.

6. You have a developed right hemisphere

The right hemisphere is associated with emotional expression, music, recognition of faces, colors, images and intuition. Highly sensitive people are more inquisitive, imaginative, and intuitive.

7. You get more upset about bad decisions.

If you make the wrong decision, you often beat yourself up about it for a long time. Your emotions are exaggerated due to great emotional reactivity.

8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts

About 70 percent of highly sensitive people are introverts. But if a person has grown up or is used to being in a close-knit group of people, it is much easier for him to adapt to strangers.

9. You are a good addition to any team.

Although highly sensitive people prefer to work alone, their thoughtfulness helps them come up with interesting, innovative ideas.

10. You are more prone to depression and anxiety.

If a hypersensitive person encounters big amount negativity, especially in early childhood or adolescence, he may feel insecure and be prone to anxiety and depression. This is especially important for parents of such children to know and always support them.

11. You are not prone to casual relationships

You need to feel comfortable with a person in order to become intimate with them.

In previous articles we talked about what it is increased sensitivity how it develops sensitive child, and now - about what to do as an adult whose sensitivity became a problem for him due to childhood rejection and constant comparison of himself with others.

By the time a sensitive person grows up socially, he is already accustomed to the fact that his needs, requests, sensations, ideas about comfort, the environment, wishes for relationships - all this differs from the demands of the majority.

That is why a sensitive person is poorly compatible with certain general rhythms, general approaches to solving life problems, does not always fit into groups, and is often not suitable for widely accepted methods of communication and living conditions.

Many people ask the question: why can’t a sensitive person adapt? After all, all living things, in theory, adapt to conditions environment, and may well learn to survive effectively in it. Why isn't this happening here?

Sensitivity and adaptation

For some reason, adaptation is more often understood as the breaking of personality to meet the needs of society than the real essence adaptation – dynamic balance. This means that not only the environment influences a person, but also a person influences the environment. Otherwise, there would be no social changes, and society would forever remain in caves.

However, we see with the naked eye how much man has changed the surrounding reality, and, regardless of the assessment of these changes, we are forced to admit: man, in his ability to adapt, has gone much further than integrating himself into his environment.

Our nervous system There are, of course, such adaptive possibilities as habituation and adaptation. But they work in proportion to the innate psychophysiological given.

Relatively speaking, it will be easy for a person whose height is 170 cm to get used to bowing his head, without particularly straining, in order to pass through a door 165 cm high. For a person whose height is 190 cm, this will be much more difficult, and to do it regularly without injuring himself in the process , he won't be able to. Do you understand the difference?

Adaptation in the form of habituation and adjustment exists, of course, in people whose sensitivity- above average. But just as it is impossible for the average person to increase their sensitivity to the level of an HSP, it is also difficult for an HSP to adapt enough to be equal to the average person.

An obvious conclusion arises: in order to adapt their high sensitivity to the conditions existing around them, HSPs can and should influence the environment in order to adapt, and not just assimilate its rules and norms accepted by the majority.

And now we will talk about how exactly a sensitive person can do this, what pitfalls are most often encountered on his way, and what internal processes can accompany all this.

Start with small things

The most difficult thing you have to do is get used to the idea of ​​your own right to be who you are. There are no instructions on the topic “how to accept yourself”; for everyone this is an individual path, which is often walked together with a specialist.

In the case of HSP, this may be a particularly important component. The experience of being accepted by another person, in this case a psychologist, helps strengthen and develop self-acceptance. But there are some things you can do on your own.

And I suggest you start with something simple - with a list of everything that is uncomfortable for you, that hurts your sensitivity. Try to somehow rank the inconveniences as they increase, from small to more global. By small, it is usually understood that the majority of those around them have written down there.

For example, terrible curtains in the room that my mother once bought, an uncomfortable chair, dim/too bright light in the room, an unpleasant smell in the bathroom, crowding in line and resulting irritating touches, noise from neighbors, bed linen in pills, too cold /hot weather, food that is familiar, but does not cause pleasure, and it makes something “wrong” in the body, etc.

Some of these issues can be resolved with little financial investment and ingenuity. It would seem that it would be so difficult to buy another light bulb, earplugs, bedding from a different fabric, or think about food that is more suitable for you? Throw away the old ones that create unpleasant smell items to buy flavorings? As a rule, most people can afford all this, and even more.

Why not start using home delivery or convenience stores more often, visiting them, for example, closer to the night, when the main flow of people has already subsided? Why not think about special clothing – thermal underwear in case of cold, special “breathable” sportswear in case of heat, etc.? All this does not fall into the category of inaccessible.

The question is - why is this not done most often? But because most often you are ashamed, especially if you do not live alone.

It’s embarrassing to admit to the mother who gave you the curtains that they are not your aesthetic (and that this aesthetic matters at all!). It’s a shame to tell your husband/wife that you can no longer sleep on such underwear, it’s a shame to tell your work colleagues that for lunch you won’t go to eat pancakes with them, but will go to a vegetarian cafe, even though you’ll have to spend a little more time on the road, but there the food is more suitable for you, etc.

It’s a shame to be capricious, with pretensions, it’s scary to think about what they’ll twist at your temple, judge you, be offended or whisper behind your back. That's why I suggest starting with the little things. Firstly, because for the majority these are really small things, and they are unlikely to concentrate much on these little things, and secondly, because learning to respect oneself immediately and globally is an unrealistic task.

Any quality transformation requires a resource. A sensitive person, as a rule, at a certain point in his life gets very tired of playing by rules that are difficult for him. If you are thinking about how to accept your sensitivity, most likely, you have already reached that very moment of fatigue.

It’s the little things that can begin to fill you with resources. But sometimes it’s not easy to afford them even when no one is watching. It’s just that you yourself have long been accustomed to treating yourself this way, and from within you the voice of your mother/father/grandmother is constantly broadcasting on the topic “all children are like children, but yours...”

In order not to hear this condemning voice inside yourself, you try not to do anything “special” for yourself. But you don’t have to measure yourself all your life by your parents’ assessments, and the fact that now this voice is in your head is your choice, conscious or not.

The first thing you can try to tell yourself is to give permission to your needs, support yourself in this. Sometimes it is worth at this moment to imagine that child who once did not understand what was “wrong” with his needs, and was condemned, rejected and irritated with him.

Now you are your own parent and you can very well say to yourself “yes, you have the right to this, I understand you well,” try to satisfy the need and see if it will have such a destructive impact on your life as you expected.

Practice shows that after these simple attempts to take care of himself, a sensitive person begins to respect himself to a greater extent and feel more confident, because he begins to understand already at the level of sensations: it works. It helps you live, feel better, gives you confidence and energy.

About larger tasks

When little things fill you up a little with resource, and sensitivity no longer seems like such a punishment, you will naturally have to pay attention to more serious issues.

Perhaps it is unbearable for you to be among people for eight hours, perhaps you are not able to get up early, you cannot stay in a cramped room with artificial light for so long, you cannot constantly fall asleep to the roar of music in the next apartment, you really need beauty and aesthetics around, more tactful people, your problem with the environment cannot be solved by clothes alone, and your body needs a serious change in conditions...

Many HSPs fall into despair when such thoughts appear: they need to change their whole life - work, environment, the very way of life and its schedule! But a sensitive person is not a weak or weak-willed person, as we already said in the first part. Everyone experiences fear of change, but that doesn't mean you can't take action.

On the contrary, increased sensitivity can become an impetus to achieve more than the average majority.

One of my clients suffered for a long time, among other things, from the inconveniences associated with living in a high-rise building. Noise, unpleasant smells, an always dirty and smoky entrance, neighbors who barge in with tactless conversations when they meet... When she was able to take the first steps towards accepting herself and the fact that she is a sensitive person, at some point she set herself the task of moving out from here forever. The path was not easy, but being confident in the importance of her own needs, she was able to complete it, and moreover, during the process, meet a man who shared her aspirations. Now they live as a family in their own house outside the city.

My other client sincerely considered himself a social phobe, was sure that because of his “misanthropy” he could not work in an office like everyone else, that now he would have to spend the rest of his life working part-time jobs and never becoming anyone. We decided to try to perceive all this as a lifestyle - “I don’t work in the office because I’m more productive working alone” (and not because I’m some kind of “defective”), etc. As a result, he was one of the first to master new remote technologies, which allowed him to open his own business and stop worrying about not working in the office.

We can say that increased sensitivity encourages you to take steps in life that you simply would not have taken otherwise.

People often complain that their increased sensitivity exposes them to costs and additional complications. But we should not forget that it is precisely this that sometimes serves as a motive to develop in a profession, earn money, increase comfort and improve health. Which in the end may well lead to a more rich, interesting and happy life than many others.

Therefore, it is worth asking yourself the question in time: what can I and want to change thanks to my sensitivity? What life accomplishments does it give me energy for?

Of course, the most important thing is your attitude towards yourself, your characteristics and needs. But let’s assume (and this often happens in reality), you have already begun a restructuring inside, you already perceive your sensitivity as a personal characteristic, and not a defect, but at the same time, the people around you have not yet changed and continue to make the same demands on you.

They can be understood - after all, you tried to mimic their needs before, and they are used to treating you as the average majority. And when you (in their eyes) suddenly have “complaints”, you can really receive a portion of criticism and depreciation.

The most important thing here is not to argue, not to prove, not to try to justify your need as supposedly “objective”. No matter how much someone might want it, our objective needs are the need for air, satisfaction of hunger, thirst, the need for shelter (minimum security) and clothing where we cannot survive without it. This is all. The absence of everything else in life, including reproduction, is not fatal.

But how many people dream of living only on primitive needs? I think you can guess for yourself. No one wants to live within the framework of only “objective needs”, that is, only to survive, therefore the needs of your critics are also not objective. And you have only stepped higher on this ladder of needs.

There is no way to prove anything here: a person whose body does not feel random touches in the subway, does not notice the smell in the entrance, sleeps to the roar of heavy rock, calmly digests cutlets from the nearest canteen - he still will not understand you with your keen hearing and ability to recognize shades the taste of plain water, a subtle sense of the emotional state of others and attention to detail.

In this misunderstanding you are equal, by and large. With only one difference - your critics allow themselves to respect their needs and consider their level adequate, but you do not. But since you are an adult, you can always change this state of affairs in your favor.

“Yes, that’s how it is for me. I have such requests. You have others, I respect yours, and I invite you to respect mine.” This is all that makes sense to say to those who want to devalue them.

I often hear from clients about the fear of being alone, having begun to defend their right to have different needs from the majority. If your social circle begins to fall apart, then this will mean only one thing: there were and are no people in your environment who are ready to accept you for who you are.

It's sad, but it's better to know about it earlier. The fewer illusions you have about those whom you considered close or at least friends, the less risk in a difficult situation you will come across a real betrayal, which will be perceived exactly this way by you, when these people treat some very subtle part of you rudely, and even not understanding what happened.

Changing your social circle is difficult task, Yes. But remember that HSPs make up 10-15% of all people. Calculate how many people this is in your city? Countries? Isn’t this really enough to start creating a social circle for yourself of those who are able to understand you without forcing themselves? In addition, a person may not belong to the HSP category, but at the same time be aware enough to respect the other in another person, and not just those who are similar to themselves. All this in total is not such a catastrophically small number of people.

And finally...

An exception to the rule is also a rule. There is always an average height, but there are always a sufficient number of people who greatly exceed this average height or vice versa. There are always average abilities, but in history there have always been both mentally retarded people and geniuses (and these deviations from the usual norm were sometimes even confused with each other).

The majority of men and women are heterosexual, but in the world, as far as can be traced, a constant percentage of people of non-traditional orientation remains. Most people are right-handed, however, in every school you will find at least one left-handed child, etc.

The very structure of the world implies differences. Otherwise, there will be nothing on which to build interaction and development, which is impossible without conflict, without that very “unity and struggle of opposites.”

But it won’t be possible to measure this from a “worse or better” perspective. A sensitive person is usually called upon to solve more complex, more subtle problems in different areas– this is his strong point. The fact that it is more difficult for him to adapt to the conditions of the majority is the burden that he has to pay for expanded abilities.

You do not have the opportunity to change your deep-seated characteristics of your personality or body. But you have the choice to use it for your own development, or vice versa - to suppress and criticize along with others. And I really wish you to take a place in life, making the most of your characteristics.

Highly sensitive people are a gift to humanity. Although they are sometimes mistaken for being weak, they are actually very empathic and capable of demonstrating high degree understanding and care. Such individuals have a unique ability. They can resist a cold and indifferent society and remain just as open and understanding.

High sensitivity is caused by genetics

According to scientific research, high sensitivity is caused by genetics, in particular, highly sensitive nervous system. This forces a person to very subtly perceive everything that is around him, and to react to it more vividly and emotionally.

How do genes influence this? To do this, you need to understand concepts such as temperament and personality. Temperament is a set congenital features, which determine how a person will see this world. This is a complex phenomenon that is literally woven into human DNA. Personality is what a person turns into under the influence of his temperament, life experience, value systems, education and many other factors. Personality is the result of influence as external factors, both society and behavior.

If we depict this visually, then the temperament resembles a blank canvas, while the personality chooses what she will paint on this canvas. At the same time, personality can change due to various reasons, while the temperament remains unchanged. Thus, high sensitivity is the result of how temperament specific person manifests itself in his personality.

The brains of highly sensitive people are different from others

According to scientific research, the brains of highly sensitive people are able to process much more information from the environment compared to those who do not have this trait. Such people see everything more figuratively, constantly create specific associations, and such people have high level intuition.

The brain of sensitive people perceives, evaluates, processes and synthesizes information constantly. This is why they seem so absorbed, tired and even distracted. Unlike other people, such individuals need more frequent rest.

How to learn to cope with high sensitivity?

Now that you understand nature this phenomenon, you can develop specific steps towards learning to live with high sensitivity. Here are some ideas and tips that will help you understand yourself or understand the people around you who have this feature:

• Being a sensitive person is not a curse. Accept and love yourself for who you are.
• Allow yourself to show emotions. Don't hide everything you feel just so you don't stand out from others.
• Learn to understand that the world really needs people like you. Sensitivity shows us that we are human and keeps society from plunging into indifference, inertia and coldness.
• Give yourself time to relax. Highly sensitive people easily succumb to causeless anxiety and depression. Learn to recognize the moments when your emotional state begins to reach high levels and you need to take a break.
• For a highly sensitive soul, solitude can be one of the most valuable and positive things. Don't forget to just be alone with yourself sometimes.

In addition, people with high sensitivity are not only very kind and gentle, they are also able to very deeply understand and perceive the moods and emotions of the people they love. They know how to listen, hear, understand and truly empathize, which is undoubtedly one of the best human qualities.

Conclusion

High sensitivity is not an indicator of weakness, but on the contrary, it shows that you are still not indifferent and not cold, like most modern society. There is nothing shameful in showing your emotions, because they are what make such people so unique and inimitable. Thanks to the existence of such individuals, our world still remains humane, warm and caring.