Not all children accept a new environment or unfamiliar people immediately and without problems. Some easily enter the group, but cry at home in the evening, others agree to go to kindergarten in the morning, but before entering the group they begin to be capricious. The older the child, the faster he is able to adapt.
Psychologists distinguish several degrees of the adaptation process characteristic of children. With easy adaptation, the baby joins the children's group in 2 - 4 weeks. You can judge that the baby easily gets used to the kindergarten by the following features: he comes in without tears or hysterics and remains in the group; when speaking, looks teachers in the eye; able to voice a request for help; is the first to make contact with peers; easily adapts to daily routine; responds adequately to educational cues; tells parents how classes went in the garden.
Moderate addiction lasts at least 1.5 months. At the same time, the child often gets sick and demonstrates pronounced negative reactions: he has difficulty parting with his mother, cries a little after separation; when distracted, forgets about the separation and joins the game; communicates with peers and teacher; rarely becomes the instigator of conflict situations.
Babies with a severe type of adaptation process are quite rare. Some of them show open aggression when visiting kindergarten, while others withdraw into themselves, demonstrating complete detachment from what is happening. The duration of addiction can range from 2 months to several years. The main features of this adaptation are: reluctance to contact peers and adults; tears, hysterics, stupor when parting with parents for a long time; refusal to enter the playing area from the locker room; reluctance to play, eat, or go to bed; aggressiveness or isolation; inadequate response to the teacher’s address to him (tears or fear). In this case, it is necessary to contact specialists (psychologist, neurologist, pediatrician) and jointly develop an action plan.
Psychologists believe that the characteristics of a child’s adaptation to a new environment depend on many factors: the type of nervous system and state of health, personality traits, family atmosphere, conditions in kindergarten. The greatest difficulties are experienced by children with poor health, who quickly get tired of noise, have difficulty falling asleep during the day, and have poor appetite. Children who are overprotected, do not have self-care skills, and are anxious get used to kindergarten with difficulty. There is a certain pattern - those kids whose social circle was not limited to their parents and grandmothers are more likely to get used to the new society. Those children who rarely interacted with other children, on the contrary, find it difficult to adapt to changed conditions.
In order for the process of adaptation to be as successful as possible, quickly and painlessly, experts advise instilling the most important skills in the future preschooler in advance. That is why parents should know what it is advisable to teach a child going to preschool. Dress and undress independently. Ideally, three-year-olds should already take off their swimming trunks, socks, tights, and put on a T-shirt and blouse or jacket. There may be difficulties with fasteners, but you should still get used to them. To do this, you can buy lacing toys. Use a spoon and fork. To do this, you need to give up bottles and sippy cups, which do not contribute to rapid growth. Ask and go to the potty. You should get rid of diapers already at the age of one and a half years, especially since the ability to ask and go to bed will significantly simplify adaptation, since the child will feel more confident among skilled peers. Accept different foods. Many three-year-olds are characterized by selectivity in food. Ideally, parents should bring the home menu closer to the kindergarten menu. Communicate with adults. Quite often you can hear a child’s peculiar speech, which is understandable only to the mother. Some kids generally communicate with gestures, rightly believing that their parents will understand everything. Teach children to speak correctly. Play with children. Psychologists advise regularly visiting families with small children, walking on playgrounds, and playing in the sandbox.
Every time after coming from kindergarten, you need to ask your child about how the day went, what impressions he received (if your baby can explain himself to you). It is imperative to focus the child’s attention on the positive aspects, since parents with such short remarks are able to form a positive attitude towards the preschool institution. Be patient, understanding and discerning. And then soon the kindergarten will turn into a cozy, familiar and familiar world for the baby!

M. Khalitova,
Head of the Children's Educational Institution kindergarten "Bell" in the village of Fedorovka.

The process of adaptation

Each child reacts to the situation of entering kindergarten in his own way. Some of the children can immediately calmly go into the group, start playing and interacting with other children, while others at first only observe without taking part in what is happening. And some of the children may refuse to communicate altogether, not accepting any offers or persuasion, and constantly cry without their mother.

This behavior is explained by three phases:

1. The period of maladjustment or the so-called acute phase. This phase is characterized by frequent illnesses, appetite and sleep disturbances, and refusal to go to the garden.
2. The adaptation process itself. Characterized by gradual adaptation to changed conditions. Behavior returns to normal over time.
3. Compensation. Children in the final stage begin to behave in a balanced manner, get used to the regime, and their emotional state changes for the better. The duration of adaptation on average takes from two to three to four months. But if there are breaks when visiting kindergarten, then the adaptation process can start again. In this case, all the problems will repeat again.

How to get used to kindergarten: upcoming problems

The process of getting used to kindergarten is influenced by several factors. Here are some of them:

• the child’s home regime does not coincide with the preschool regime;
• the presence of unwanted habits, such as rocking when falling asleep, sucking pacifiers, bottles;
• inability to play with toys independently and keep oneself occupied;
• lack of development of necessary skills (cultural and hygienic);
• The age of the child is of no small importance;
• level of health and development of the child. Children who do not get sick often have an easier time adapting;
• features of individual development. Some children have a hard time getting used to kindergarten, then their behavior returns to normal, while some children, on the contrary, behave completely calmly in the first days, and then the situation worsens. They begin to eat poorly and cry often;
• features of biological factors. For example, a child has diseases acquired long before entering kindergarten (injuries received by the mother during childbirth; complications that were present during pregnancy, for example, toxicosis);
• training of adaptation mechanisms. Those children who visited more often, in different institutions, with friends, with relatives, and spent a long time at the dacha, get used to kindergarten better than children who spent most of their time at home.

The main reason for difficult adaptation is the baby’s lack of experience communicating with other children and adults. Those children who suffer the most in this situation are those whose communication before kindergarten was too limited. For example, if he only communicated with his mother or grandmother. It is much more difficult for such children to establish contacts. The speed of formation of relationships with the teacher and peers depends on the width of the circle of contacts before kindergarten. If the child had little contact with children before kindergarten, then a large number of children in the group will frighten him, cause him a feeling of anxiety and a desire to retire. If a child has experience communicating with adults, then it will be much easier for him to establish contact with educators. According to statistics, 3 children out of 100 face difficulties in adaptation precisely because of limited communication during the pre-school period. More often these are the only children in the family, or those who get sick very often.

At what age should I send my child to kindergarten?

The most difficult time for children to get used to kindergarten is between the ages of 10 months and 2 years.

After 2 years, the adaptation process is easier, as children become inquisitive and can be captivated by interesting activities and new toys. In addition, two-year-olds understand adult speech better and are able to calm down quickly.

According to psychologists, the most favorable age for getting used to the kindergarten regime is 2-3 years. It is during this period that children strive to assert their self, trying to be independent in everything. This period is called the crisis of early childhood. It is at this age that the kindergarten regime can have a beneficial effect on adaptation to a previously unknown social environment and, in general, on the development of the child as an individual.

But you should also not send your child to kindergarten in the midst of this period, as the process may worsen. During a difficult period of adaptation, a child more than ever needs the support of adults and their understanding, since his body is under a mental load, plus the difficulty of adapting to kindergarten. Therefore, it is advisable to send your child to kindergarten a little later, when his adaptation mechanisms have improved a little.

Another unfavorable age for entering kindergarten is the age from 4 to 5-6 years. This age is relatively stable, and any change in the usual lifestyle can lead to negative consequences.

The beginning of a stay in a new atmosphere in the society of a kindergarten can be regarded as violence against the individual and loss of individuality. Childhood experiences can lead to the appearance of such forms of behavior as whims, hysterics, and sometimes somatic disorders, for example, the appearance of abdominal pain, increased body temperature and exacerbation of existing chronic diseases.

Children, finding themselves in an unusual environment, try to return to normal home life with the help of manipulation. It is as if adults are being drawn into a kind of struggle between parents and the baby; somewhere they are, then the child wins. A preschooler acts approximately like this: first, he verbally tells his parents how bad he feels in kindergarten; if this does not work, then he tries to use methods of influence such as hysteria and tears; if these do not work on the parents, then the next remedy will be illness. But after recovery, the baby will be taken back to kindergarten, where a relapse may occur.

It is not recommended to send your child to kindergarten if you have another baby. Although, it would seem, this would make life much easier for parents. It is advisable to do this either earlier or a little later. The older child, seeing that another family member has appeared in the house, may interpret his departure to the garden as an expulsion, and consider that the parents preferred the newborn to him. This will not only negatively affect adaptation, but can also worsen relationships between children.

Ways to make it easier to adapt to kindergarten

In order to help the child get used to kindergarten, it is recommended to begin preparing the child for interaction with other children and adults long before entering it. You can do this by visiting children's playgrounds, you can also visit people more often or invite people with children home, teach the children how to play collective games. A child will encounter fewer difficulties if he develops basic self-service skills before entering kindergarten, such as eating independently, using the potty, etc.

Using a pacifier or bottle with a nipple can significantly impair adaptation. To help the child get used to kindergarten, it is advisable to prepare the child in advance for the fact of entering kindergarten, explain to him the need to visit this place. Start telling him about kindergarten early, about 2-4 weeks in advance. Explain what this place is and why he will need to go there, that he will be interested there, that he will be able to learn a lot. You can visit the kindergarten in advance and introduce the child to the teacher, so that he does not just observe a new person, but has the opportunity to communicate and get to know each other better. Constantly tell your baby that you are very proud of him, that he is already very mature and big, since he can attend kindergarten. In the presence of a child, do not talk about possible problems in visiting kindergarten, do not cause unnecessary anxiety and fear.

Try to describe kindergarten for your child exclusively from the positive side. You cannot say things that can scare a child or develop in him a feeling of anxiety and fear of an unknown place. You also cannot frighten a child with the image of a teacher, saying that he will punish him for bad behavior. It is also strictly forbidden to say phrases that can seriously cause harm, for example, that you will not pick up your child after dinner if he behaves badly. It is necessary to emphasize that no one in the kindergarten will offend the child. Reassure your child that he has nothing to be afraid of. Do not show your baby your concern for him, as this can only aggravate his anxiety; answer all the questions he asks. The day before his first visit to kindergarten, remind him that tomorrow he will go to the group, and you will definitely go with him.

In order to help your child get used to kindergarten, you need to get used to it gradually. The right decision would be to leave the child only for a few hours in the first days; it is better to coordinate the time of stay in the kindergarten with the teacher. You can pick up your child either before lunch, or, conversely, bring him in the evening, when there are fewer children in the group and the teacher can communicate with your child more. You can also discuss with the teachers the routine to which the child is accustomed and get advice on how best to adjust it. In addition, evening time is good because the child will see how children meet with their parents, can observe the joy from these meetings and avoid watching difficult separations. Spending time in the garden can be gradually increased. First, you can come for it after lunch, then leave it for a nap, an afternoon snack, and if no complications arise, then you can soon switch to the normal regimen. To help your child get used to kindergarten, it is not recommended to delay it yourself, as the child may get used to his special position.

You can take some familiar, familiar object with you to the garden, for example, a favorite toy that reminds him of home. The toy will be a companion who “goes to the garden” with the child. When you get home, ask them to tell you about how the toy was in the garden, whether you liked it, whether anyone offended you, who it played with and how it behaved. The child will associatively transfer the image of the toy onto himself and talk directly about his day and his impressions. When you bring your baby to the kindergarten, be sure to say goodbye to him, saying that you will take him home in the evening. It is advisable to indicate the time at which you will return for him, so that during the day the baby does not worry, constantly waiting for his mother to appear, but calmly studies and knows when to expect you. The main difficulty for parents is the ability to keep themselves cool and not give in to the child’s persuasion to take him home rather than leave him in the garden.

Do not give in to manipulation, you need your child to get used to kindergarten, knowing that there is no choice, that visiting the garden is necessary and inevitable. Then he will stop resisting and begin to look for positive aspects in the current situation. Reduce the goodbye process to a minimum. A long goodbye means extra tears. As a rule, after the mother leaves, the child quickly becomes distracted and calms down. Alternatively, you can come up with your own ritual when leaving, for example, he will wave his hand from the group out the window, so the farewell process will be less painful for the child. Be sure to praise your baby when the separation passes without tears and calmly.

In principle, you can agree with the group staff and the kindergarten administration about your presence in the first days. But here it is important not to prolong the separation, because the baby’s crying may provoke you to take him home. But such alternation of being in the garden and at home can negatively affect both the child himself and the group as a whole. The adaptation situation can only get worse.

In the first days, it is recommended that the mother pick up the child from kindergarten. Moreover, it is advisable to come for him early and not be late. If most of the children have already been taken away by their parents, your baby may feel forgotten. And it is possible that the next day the separation will be especially problematic.

Spend enough time and attention communicating with your teacher. Ask about your child’s well-being, behavior and progress. If he has any allergies, then the staff must be informed about this. If a child has good contact with the teacher, this can have a beneficial effect on his well-being.

Peculiarities of behavior at home during adaptation to the garden

To be prepared for anything, you need to know how long it takes for children to get used to kindergarten. As a rule, children get used to kindergarten after 2-3 months. During this time, you need to be careful so that the baby does not decide that his old life, which was before kindergarten, is over forever.

During adaptation, the child’s behavior may show irritability, and there may also be a deterioration in sleep and appetite. At this time, he should feel special sensitivity and attention to himself. At home, the daily routine should become more gentle, and on weekends, allow the child to make adjustments to his routine, for example, let him create his own menu.

Take an interest in his activities in kindergarten. Ask in detail what unusual and interesting things he learned in kindergarten during the day, what other children did, what games he played and what he liked best. If you are a grateful listener, your child will be interested in talking about the kindergarten. Keep all the crafts and drawings he brought from kindergarten as souvenirs, so that he knows that what he does there is important to you.

If your child shows a desire to give a drawing to the teacher, support his decision. If you want to bring a friend with whom he became friends in the garden, then you can consider that the boundaries of life in the garden and life at home are now blurred, now one is a continuation of the other. This is a good sign, this is success.

Since, after returning from kindergarten, your baby’s emotions are seething, in order to help the child get used to kindergarten, you need to pay attention to creating a calm environment at home in which he can relax and be alone with himself. But don’t forget that he also missed the company of his parents. Give him the necessary amount of attention, put aside all your business for a while and just read a book, play a quiet game with him, hug your baby or just talk about what he wants. If a child is surrounded by sufficient attention and love at home, then he will be comfortable in kindergarten.

What to do if a child refuses to go to kindergarten

It would seem that the long-awaited moment has finally arrived when your child begins to calmly attend preschool. But everything is not always as smooth and cloudless as we would like. It happens that difficulties arise 3-4 weeks after the start of visiting the garden. One day, waking up in the morning, when you need to get ready and go to kindergarten, your child will burst into tears for no reason at all. Maybe it’s because he had a nightmare last night, or maybe he refuses to go to the garden because he’s been sick for a long time and is used to being at home. What happened?

The child attended the first weeks willingly, because he was interested and unusual, he was surrounded by a lot of unknown and new things, he enjoyed communicating with other children, he was filled with pride in himself that he was already big and, just like mom and dad, “goes to school.” work." And suddenly, for unknown reasons, he begins to protest, refuses to go into the garden, and cries. Typically, such behavior is observed in children who are abruptly left to their own devices or who are taken away from the first days and taken away by strangers who are in their care. It becomes clear to the child that the garden deprives him of constant communication with his mother.

Many children, who, in principle, feel cozy and comfortable in the group, experience difficulties precisely in the process of parting with their mother. You can get out of the situation in the following way - shift the responsibility of taking the child to kindergarten to the father. Tell your teacher about any difficulties you are experiencing. Ask her to monitor your child's behavior throughout the day. Let her note how quickly he calmed down after his mother left, and after how long he became involved in general activities. Perhaps she will come up with some important and responsible task for him, which she will give as soon as she sees him in the group.

Remember that addiction problems may return after a long stay at home, such as after a vacation or holiday. Be flexible; as a last resort, you can do the same as at the very beginning of adaptation - shorten the time you spend in kindergarten.

Try to periodically find out about your child from the teacher. After all, children can often say more in the garden than at home. Perhaps you will learn a little more about your child.

How to understand whether parents are ready to send their child to kindergarten

How long does it take for children to get used to kindergarten? The time of adaptation to kindergarten is a difficult period not only for children, but also for parents. If after 2 weeks the child still cries every time he goes to kindergarten, then most likely you were in a hurry by sending him there too early. Maybe the baby is not yet “ripe” for the garden. Or maybe the parents themselves are not “ripe” for a long separation from their child and with their excessive anxiety they themselves create obstacles to full adaptation. Therefore, it is very important for parents to monitor their feelings, being aware of their nature.

A prerequisite for adaptation to occur is the rejection of feelings of betrayal and guilt. If you have even the slightest doubt, rest assured that your child will feel them, and it will be much more difficult for him to say goodbye to you.

By being able to cope with feelings and entrusting your baby to the people who will be with him, you will ensure that he has a comfortable stay in the garden. After all, now the child’s adaptation mechanisms are just beginning to be laid down, which he will use in the future when entering school and even in adulthood.

Trust yourself and the world. Teach your child to trust the world, let him understand that everything around him is safe and interesting, then your child will grow up to be a happy person.

Good afternoon... It's been a long time since I wrote here...
But I need your help again.
My baby is 6 months old... But I can't get used to him.
Sometimes I hate, sometimes I love.
I don't understand what's wrong with me. But I can’t consult with anyone because they’ll think I’m crazy. Maria Vinogradova

Nicole

Olesya Verevkina

Nicole, after a while, psychologist Maria Vinogradova will comment on the topic.

Hello Nicole! Just a couple of days ago I was thinking about you and your baby. You really haven’t been on the forum for a long time - caring for the child and housework takes up almost all the time of a young mother, I understand.
Tell us about your daily routine: do you get enough sleep, what time do you get up, what do you do with your baby, does he follow the regime, does your husband/mother and father help you, anyone else in taking care of your son, do you eat normally, do you have enough time for yourself/your interests?
Your polar feelings towards your child (“sometimes I hate, sometimes I love”) are familiar to almost every woman. We are not robots, and we simply cannot feel a surge of tenderness and love in moments when the baby wakes us up 20 times at night, incessantly screams like a siren, or does not go to bed for several hours in a row, during which we need to cook dinner, and hang out the laundry, and wipe the dust, and, in the end, get some rest. It’s completely normal to have not only positive, but also negative feelings towards your child, Nicole, and you shouldn’t blame yourself for it.

Maria Vinogradova, I don’t get enough sleep at all, I cry all day long, he’s teething now, he sleeps only at lunch for 1 hour and in the evening for about 40 minutes, it really drives me crazy, he sleeps more at night but gets up a couple of times and I don’t want to sleep anymore. Sometimes I don’t itch for 2-3 days... What do I do with the child, well, I play with him with rattles, turn on cartoons, but this distracts only for half an hour, then he just cries or screams.
DOES YOUR HUSBAND HELP? AHAHA You might not even ask about this, but you know the answer is no)
He sits with him if he needs to cook something to eat because I don’t have time, sometimes he can beat me.
We generally live alone, my mother is far away and his mother has gone home. I am completely alone with the child, and I throw out all my anger at him, I hit him, I scream at him. Sometimes they don’t even have time to eat, I eat once a day and that’s it... When the baby is sleeping, I wash and clean like crazy, my husband immediately yells if it’s not tidy and sends it to his mother. I don’t know what to do, I can’t go to my mother because she won’t provide for me, neither the child nor my father. I’m in despair, I bought light tranquilizers at the pharmacy, but even they don’t help... I don’t know what to do

Nicole

When a man becomes a father, his priorities can change - I wish that didn't happen with your husband, Nicole. But you and I said that in most cases, a man begins to realize himself as responsible for a new life when the baby turns 2-4 years old, when you can already talk to him and do something together).
It turns out that you continue to endure humiliation from your husband, throwing out negative emotions on your son, only because of the money with which your husband provides you? Mom can’t help because she’s in a monastery, and dad doesn’t earn much, do I understand correctly? Do any of your relatives or friends help you with clothes/toys for your child?
Lack of time is the most common problem new mothers face, but that time will soon pass, Nicole. Children grow up quickly, difficulties are forgotten and mostly bright, touching memories remain. Try to set aside time for yourself (at least 10 minutes in the morning, afternoon and evening): combing your hair, washing your face and putting on clean, beautiful clothes is just as important for the mother as it is for the baby, because you are in contact with him almost 24 hours a day. During your son's nap, try setting aside time to read or watch TV (explain to your husband that you are very tired and from time to time you just need to be alone and calm down).
Here is an approximate plan for game development with a child by month - take a look, perhaps you will be able to diversify your communication with your son (I will send the link in a personal message).

Maria Vinogradova, Good afternoon...
I broke up with my husband a couple of days ago, now my dad and I have a baby.
We had a huge quarrel with his mother, she kept pointing her nose everywhere if she was right and if she was wrong, I couldn’t stand it anymore and gave her a strong rebuff, my husband first yelled at her not to stick her nose in everywhere, and then his grandmother persuaded him and he started to drive me away... And then his mother said that she needed to go to the hospital to get tested because she once had a female surgery, but there was nothing serious there, she just needed to go every 5 years to get checked, so my husband was so worried, he took her she didn’t pay attention to me everywhere, and there was nothing with her, she just wanted to put pressure on pity, so what am I leading to, in general, when I gave birth, the doctor told me that I had some kind of small tumor in my cervix, then I forgot to get checked, so my husband Never been so worried about me. This really touched my soul and heart and I left, he still said that I was wrong and that I should respect my mother.
Yesterday I called to hear my son and said that he was twisted in his soul, saying that I had already gone to the beams somehow to bewitch him, it hurts me that he doesn’t need me.
Now for some reason I’m crying that I left ((how will Maria cope with this? (((I’m going to die like this. He doesn’t care about me ((

Nicole

Nicole, I'm so sorry this happened. I understand your anger at your mother-in-law, who dictates her own rules of life, and your resentment at your husband, who does not pay enough attention and care to you. In codependent relationships, things are never simple (we talked about this): the couple exists in a state of a pendulum, which swings from the position “life with you is wonderful” to “I hate you.” Do I understand correctly that now you would like to return to your husband? Does your dad support you? Does your mother know about your decision? Has anything changed in your attitude towards your son (you lashed out at him, didn’t know what to do with him), or did everything remain the same?

Maria Vinogradova, I myself don’t understand what I want, sometimes I want to come back, sometimes I don’t. I really want a man to appear in my life who respects and appreciates me, so that I forget about everything about him, but I can’t because no one will love his son like his own dad and I’m crying about this, I want to come back only because of my son, Yes, I feel sorry for my dad, he doesn’t work anywhere and he also feeds me and my son, my husband didn’t give me any money.
Dad fully supports me, because I’ve been patient for so long.
I don’t take it out on my son; on the contrary, I look after him all day long.
My husband called yesterday and asked about his son, but from the conversation I realized that he was not going to come for us...

Nicole

Elena.

Nicole, hello. You have allowed all visitors to write here. I support every word of Maria and do not consider you crazy.
I had the same baby who was restless when he was little. Now he is 7 years old, but his butt has never gone away. I can imagine HOW physically and mentally difficult it is for you.
And very often I want to throw out my anger on this little creature. Every time I wanted to do this, I stopped, counted to 10 and imagined that he was so small, and I was a huge giant and he couldn’t give me back and HOW much he was afraid of me and LOVED me just as much!
We all want freedom, but while the baby is small, why not accept the help of your mother-in-law. Nod to her and do your own thing) Beatings cannot be forgiven.
We women. We perceive the world differently. There are very few dads who treat their children the same way. This fact must be accepted. We have a complete family, but dad communicated with his son so rarely that when the son was little, the son would run after men on the street and shout “Dad.”
I was very hurt. But love can be instilled. You shouldn’t do it forcefully, like this - you’re a dad and you have to! Then some men become even more afraid and move away. You can do this - our son looks so much like you, he has such eyes, a mouth, he is as smart as you)
Nicole. If you set yourself a program that another man will not love your son, then so be it. He won't love it. Ask the sky for a different arrangement. So that a man appears who will love your son AS his own. If a man is yelling, then he needs to see a doctor, because being the mother of such a baby is very difficult. But since we cannot fix dad, we are looking for how to influence him. That is, how to talk correctly with your husband - a tyrant. It seems to me that they are consulting here (sorry Maria), or rather male psychologists
Have you checked your baby with a neurologist?

Have you received a voucher with a place in kindergarten? Great! Congratulations! Why is there such fear and anxiety in the eyes? Of course of course. We understand. Calmly. The main thing is to pull yourself together and calm down.

Task No. 1 is to help the baby adapt. How?

Tip #1. Start preparing your child in advance for the idea of ​​a garden. Walk nearby, talk about how all the adults go to work. And children, when they become adults, also go to work (the emphasis is on the word adult), because the child is already big. This is important because children all want to grow up as quickly as possible. The conversation is conducted unobtrusively, not every day, but sometimes. If you are walking, pay attention to your child when other children are walking from or to kindergarten.

Tip #2. It is very important that the regime matches. At least a month in advance, switch to a kindergarten routine: early rise, lunch at 12 and sleep.

Tip #3. Play kindergarten with your child. Show him the theater, play with his favorite dolls or stuffed animals, so that he is just a passive listener. Take the dolls and do everything as in the garden. Some toy is a teacher, another is a mother with a teddy bear, etc. You completely lose out the whole day: they have breakfast, walk, play, have lunch, sleep, have afternoon tea, and then the emphasis is made that the parents come for him... Since it is separation and the fear of being abandoned that is most difficult for a child to experience. Show performances like this every day. Be sure to focus on the fact that, for example, a mother doll takes her baby and praises him that he is an adult, was at work, that his mother came to pick him up, since no one stays in the kindergarten and everyone is taken home. It is very important.

And lastly, never ask your child whether he liked it or not in the garden. Why bother his soul? And if he answers “no,” what will you say? The child must take the garden for granted. Whether you like it or not, you have to go. And be sure to praise him for doing his duty and going to work. And in general, warn everyone, especially your friends and grandparents, not to interfere with your soul. Never discuss or condemn the garden in the presence of a child, or better yet, praise it, no matter what happens there. Someone came to you, and you: “Oh, we have news - ours (Misha, Yura, Vanya) has become quite an adult, he now goes to work like a dad. Such a good guy."

Of course, children are different. My son, when he went to kindergarten, was also worried, of course. Yes, I was all on edge, but I tried to hold on. And he, as he later told me, was not afraid to stay, because... I remembered the script of my play - mothers always take their children home. Good luck to you and your baby.

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Rospotrebnadzor specialists give advice to parents during the child’s adaptation period.

Where does kindergarten begin? Oddly enough, kindergarten begins with parting, with mother and baby saying goodbye, from the moment when he is left alone with strangers and unfamiliar children. Therefore, parents need to prepare both themselves and their child for this difficult test.

Let's start with ourselves. Be positive about yourself, even if your own experience in kindergarten was less than positive. In the end, kindergarten is a necessary “school” of life, and in it, as in life, there will be both joyful and sad moments.

Getting ready for the first day

The child must be prepared in advance for the idea of ​​kindergarten and the need to attend it. Tell your child about the kindergarten, that there are a lot of children there, new toys, swings, etc. If possible, go there, play on the playground, meet the teacher. Create a mood of joyful anticipation in your baby. At the same time, prepare him for the upcoming separation: As a rule, many children get used to new conditions after a few days.

Before entering kindergarten, it is important to develop a child’s sense of self-confidence, and this is impossible without developing independence. Observe your baby to see if he knows how to dress himself, eat, play, etc. Help him learn all these things.

How soon will the child get used to kindergarten?

The average period of adaptation to kindergarten, according to experts, is 7-10 days at a toddler age, 2-3 weeks at a 3-year-old age, and 1 month at a senior preschool age. Psychologists believe that the characteristics of a child’s adaptation to a new environment depend on many factors: the type of nervous system and state of health, personality traits, family atmosphere, conditions in kindergarten. The greatest difficulties in adaptation are experienced by children with poor health, who quickly get tired of noise, have difficulty falling asleep during the day, and have poor appetite. Children who are overprotected, do not have self-care skills, and are anxious get used to kindergarten with difficulty. Sanguine and choleric people adapt more easily to new conditions, phlegmatic and melancholic people have a harder time adapting to new conditions.

Why do children get sick so often in kindergarten?

Each child must undergo a medical examination and tests before attending kindergarten. So. The pediatrician has given you a conclusion that your child is ready to attend kindergarten. Great! But this does not mean that the baby will not get sick. All mothers are interested in the answer to the same question: “Why do children get sick so often?” Why they get sick is understandable. The child's body encounters unfamiliar bacteria and viruses. The immune system is being formed, and this process is accompanied by ARVI and runny nose. Thus, “training” of the immune system occurs.

The easiest way to avoid frequent illnesses is to monitor your child’s health. Wrapping him in cotton blankets and protecting him in every possible way from any drafts is completely contraindicated. This way, you will not strengthen your child's immune system, but quite the opposite. By turning a child into a “houseplant”, you risk achieving the opposite effect - any “sneeze” will knock him down on the spot. The child needs to be strengthened, often play with him in the fresh air and do physical exercises. Also, to improve immunity, the aspect of proper nutrition is very important. If a child does not receive his dose of vitamins and microelements, then what kind of healthy immunity can we talk about? In addition, teach your baby about personal hygiene. Tell him what the danger of worms is for his body and that in kindergarten children often get sick who do not follow the basic rules.

Explain what is needed:

- wash your hands before eating after using the toilet;

Wash vegetables and fruits before eating;

You only need to use your own personal towel.

How to strengthen a child's defenses?

The best way to avoid numerous colds during the period of adaptation to kindergarten is hardening. It is best to start hardening procedures in the summer. The easiest way to do this is to let the baby spend more time outdoors, swim in natural reservoirs, and run barefoot. It is important not to abandon this “useful activity” when the summer ends. Let the child walk barefoot at home, wash dishes, and play with water. When going for a walk, dress according to the weather. It's great if you organize regular visits to the pool.

Advice for parents during the period of child adaptation to kindergarten:

1. On weekends, do not suddenly change your child’s daily routine.

2. Do not wean your child from bad habits during the adaptation period (sucking pacifiers, rocking).

3. Create a calm, conflict-free environment in the family.

4. Stop visiting crowded places, the circus, and the theater with your child for a while.

5. Be more tolerant of his whims.

6. “Don’t scare”, don’t punish with kindergarten.

7. Give your child more of your time, play together, read to your baby every day.

8. Don't be stingy with praise.

9. Support your baby emotionally: hug, stroke, and call him affectionate names more often.

10. Do not wrap your child up, but dress according to the temperature in the group and outside.

11. Every time after coming from kindergarten, ask your child about how his day went, who he played with. Focus on the positive.

12. After kindergarten, give your child the opportunity to move around and play outdoor games.

13. From the 4th to the 10th day of visiting it is better to take a break.

14. Teach your child at home all the necessary self-care skills.

In conclusion, I would like to say to all parents: your love will help your child get through this difficult time. Let your baby feel that he is the most precious creature in the world to you, and don’t let him doubt it for a minute.