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Strong character can influence people and environment even more than the highest gifts and abilities.

To be a leader in life, you must not command, but create. You must set an example for others. And the first and main decision for you will be to become a person with a strong character.

Whether you like it or not, people will judge you by your character. Character reveals who we really are. Character is your values, your thoughts, your words and your actions.

Strong character develops over time. Many people mistakenly think that “most” of character is formed at an early age, and then little can be done or changed. But we don't know exactly how much or how early character develops. And it is safe to say that character does not change quickly.

An indicator of a person's character is his behavior. This behavior can be strong or weak, good or bad. We recognize a person's strong character when we see drive, energy, determination, self-discipline, willpower and strong nerves. A strong character knows what he wants and goes for it. Strong character attracts followers.

On the other hand, a person with weak character shows none of these traits. He doesn't know what he wants. A person with a weak character is contradictory, disorganized, and constantly wavers. Such a person does not attract, but, on the contrary, repels followers.

A strong person can be good or bad. For example, a gang leader is an example strong man With bad character. An outstanding leader has both strong and good characteristics. The world is sorely lacking people and leaders who have a strong character, who will guide into the future and show that they can be trusted.

Qualities of a Strong Character

A strong character is the sum of all the positive qualities that make you a strong person, such as:

discipline
honesty
responsibility
courage
patience
hard work
self confidence
justice
compassion
leadership
respect
devotion
attention
generosity
humility
and reliability.
Benefits of a Strong Character

If you have a strong character, it means that you are aware of yourself and the people around you. You are not selfish and are completely selfless. Having a strong character means that you can control your thoughts as well as your actions. A person of character always strives to do the right thing. In addition, it is difficult to offend such a person. Strong character, like Teflon (a substance that is not destroyed by acids and alkalis).

4 Ways to Develop a Strong Character

Here are some ways to develop strong character and strengthen your inner “constitution”:

1) Keep your word. Be a man of your word. If you broke a promise, don't hide it. Apologize immediately and compensate for all damages.

2) Say no. On the contrary, do not make empty promises. In other words, don't bite off more than you can chew. Learn to say no on time. Tell the other person that you are not interested or cannot do it.

3) Stop complaining. Just solve problems.

4) Be resilient. Don't let one bad day affect another. Leave yesterday behind.

Are you a person with a strong character? Or is a strong character still a dream for you?

Formed from birth. It is influenced by various factors, but mainly the child’s environment. The way peers and parents communicate with him. He learns by looking at the relationships of other people, emphasizing for himself significant moments that are deposited in his consciousness. And in the end it is formed into character traits. The formation of a person as an individual occurs until approximately 18 years of age. Afterwards, it is unlikely that the character will change unless you put enough effort into it.

Weaknesses and strengths of character

It happens that we think about our character. Some traits interfere with life, preventing you from developing and being realized in life. In such a situation, it is useful to sit down with a notepad and write down the strengths and weaknesses of your character in a column. This technique helps to sort things out life problems and understand ways to solve them.

Which traits are considered strong and which are weak? Let's figure it out!

Strengths help you move forward with your head held high, despite the current circumstances. These include:

Determination. We constantly set goals for ourselves: someone wants to achieve success at work (promotion in career ladder), another sets financial goals, others dream of losing weight and set the goal of getting the desired number on the scale. But not everyone reaches the end point; they lack moral, and maybe physical strength to implement plans. But if you have such a trait in your character, then don’t even doubt the success of completing your tasks.
Perseverance. To fulfill a desire, dream or goal, sometimes only determination is not enough; it happens that a little is missing, which helps a person reach the end, complete the intended tasks and proudly say that it is time to conquer new heights.

Strength of will. This quality usually manifests itself in situations where self-overcoming occurs. A person quits smoking, loses many kilograms, gets rid of addictions and addictions. allows you to cope with desires that do not lead to a positive result.
Organized. Sometimes it's difficult to organize your own day. Either children are distracting, or problems at work and at home. Everything interferes with the decision complex issues, disputes. It’s easy to develop organization in yourself by planning for a day or a week at once. Write down in the organizer by the hour what, when, at what time, how much time will be spent on performing each action, and follow the plan strictly. Over time, you will feel that you no longer need notes, and you can cope on your own, getting used to a regular daily routine.
Responsibility. This is one of the important and main traits in a person’s character. Without it you won’t be able to create a harmonious family, get settled and work long time in a prestigious and highly paid job. Responsibility must begin with mother's milk, and famous saying“We are responsible for those we have tamed” perfectly explains the need for this quality.
Sociability, sociability. These qualities enable a person to develop, find useful contacts, negotiate, and resolve conflict situations.

The combination of all these qualities indicates that a person has a strong character. Each of them needs to be developed and improved every day. Self-improvement never hurt anyone. Therefore, if you want to achieve everything you have in mind, you want to have a reliable rear (family, friends, children), then think about improving yourself.

Weak character traits

Pessimistic. Being in a pessimistic mood, a person perceives everything in gray color. This prevents him from implementing plans, hoping for the best, solving problems, and in general life becomes boring, dull, uninteresting and insipid. It seems that there is no way out of the situation, but all you have to do is change your glasses to pink ones. How quickly a solution is found. Look at the world with a bright eye, and then it will seem much more attractive.
Emotionality. interferes with communication between people. This applies not only family relations, but also business. How often do we shout in the boss’s office, forgetting about ethics. Such behavior should under no circumstances be allowed, otherwise the manager will harbor a grudge against you. Ultimately, you will receive a reprimand for any small violation of labor regulations, and there will always be a reason to fire you. Therefore, it is undesirable to show this quality anywhere, even with relatives.

Envy. Envy is a harmful, destructive feeling that negatively affects the psyche and emotional state. We have noticed more than once how negatively we speak about people who have achieved something in life. A woman bought an expensive car, we believe that she received it as a gift. But few people know that she earned it herself, spending years of effort to make her dream come true. A rich man married a simpleton - she is with him only for money, there is no talk of any love. A happy family– hide the real thing behind insincere smiles. And there are a lot of such situations. consciousness, it is like a worm that eats an apple from the inside.
Wastefulness, inability to accumulate. Such people are wasters of life, they don’t know what it means to not have money in their pocket, they spend it on entertainment, drinking, going to clubs, women, etc. This quality is unlikely to help one day build their capital, their own fortress, a reliable family. Ultimately, everything can end in disaster.

Weaknesses make a person vulnerable, unable to withstand negative circumstances, so it is important to develop your thoughts, skills, and qualities.

How to develop a strong character

Character is a set of qualities that we acquire in the process of life from the very beginning. early age. It does not originate genetically, it is not passed on from father to son and from mother to daughter. Qualities develop, improve or deteriorate until a person becomes an adult. Of course, this age is relative; in some developed individuals, character manifests itself already at the age of 15-16. Much depends on upbringing mental development, education.

To develop in yourself strong traits character, you need to work hard. This is the same as getting rid of something that has ingrained itself deep into the brain. I want to continue doing what I did before, but I need to do it differently. So is there a clear instruction on how to develop strong character?

First, understand what specific qualities you would like to change in yourself to become stronger, so that your mind and body work more productively. Write down the pros and cons of your character, what hinders and what helps, analyze some situations in life in which, in your opinion, you did not behave as you would like. This will help gather information together and draw conclusions.
Why having a strong character is important for you and the people around you. First of all, this allows you to achieve all your goals. But if, nevertheless, this did not happen, a failure occurred, then you should not despair, you need to continue moving in the right direction.
Empathize. Having a strong character does not mean that you go over your head, transgress through anyone who gets in your way. It's the other way around. You empathize with the weak, help them achieve their goals, love the people around you. But help unselfishly, don’t wait for a response from those you helped.
Naked facts. Strong character means a clear head. Do not start from emotions, experiences, hints and other relative feelings and qualities. Follow the pure facts, analyze, take concrete actions in your head, not vague assumptions.
Take the lead. Don't become, be someone who will adapt to conditions and lead, that is.


Appreciate what you have. Do you know the saying “it’s good where we are not”? She is unfaithful. Everything you imagine about other people, situations, places is subjective. Appreciate what is present in your life. If something doesn’t suit you, then don’t look away, don’t envy other people (neighbors, friends, celebrities), but improve and correct situations within yourself, at home, at work, etc.
No cowardice! Take risks, don't be a coward. But the risk must be carefully considered; do not rush into the pool headlong. Without battle there will be no victories, no gifts that victory should bring.
Don't follow other people's advice. Most likely, you have already subconsciously drawn conclusions for yourself on some important issue, decided what to do, but still ask the advice of your loved ones. Don't be fooled by other people's opinions that are opposed to your own, follow the first answer that pops into your head.

There is no need to argue, stay with your opinion and silently retreat, this is what strong personalities do.
Do good. There is enough evil, violence, and pain in our world. Make it a little better, notice only the best moments that happen around you, do good things yourself, help the weak: the elderly, children, animals. Only a strong-willed person is capable of such actions.
Control your mind, thoughts, emotions. To do this, you don’t have to be, look at each situation from the outside and reconsider your behavior. Excessive emotionality will never be a supporter of a strong person; it is a manifestation of the weakest. By being rude, we defend ourselves, which means we are weak.
Patience. Achieving your goals takes time, and waiting the right amount of time will require a lot of patience.
Eliminate weak thoughts. We are like gardeners removing weeds from the garden, clearing our heads of harmful, weak, unnecessary thoughts to clear our minds of unnecessary things. Tune in.
The truth and only the truth. Liars are weak, to become strong, tell only the truth. If you lie to someone close to you, you are lying, first of all, to yourself.
Work hard. “You can’t catch a fish out of a pond without effort.” Work hard, improve yourself, improve yourself. But don’t forget about rest; without it, quality work on mistakes will not be possible.

Strong character is not a panacea for all problems, but it will help you cope with many. life situations, from which there seemed to be no way out. Learn, develop, become better, and then life will seem like a fairy tale.

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Those who have enough strength of character achieve dreams and real success, while weaklings remain on the sidelines. Only a firm and strong character helps you achieve your goals in life. How to develop stronger character and stronger moral discipline?

Character, from the Greek word "χαρακτήρα", was originally a term that referred to the marks imprinted on coins. Nowadays, character refers to the collection of all the qualities such as courage, truthfulness, loyalty and integrity that a person possesses. Character is perhaps the most important thing a person can have, as it defines the very essence of people. Developing stronger character means making yourself a more productive person within a particular area of ​​interest or a particular profession. This article contains tips on how to develop stronger character and stronger moral discipline.

1. Know what makes character strong. Strength of character consists of the qualities that allow you to control your instincts and desires, control yourself and have the ability to hold yourself back from the many temptations that you constantly encounter in life. Everyday life. Moreover, strength of character is freedom from prejudice and stereotypes, and includes the ability to show and feel tolerance, love and respect for other people. .

2. Understand why strong character is important to you and especially to those around you:

Grit allows you the freedom to pursue your goals while building your resilience to failure. She helps you achieve your goals.
Having a strong character allows you to analyze and examine the reasons for failures, instead of simply complaining about them like other people do.
Strong character gives you the courage to admit your shortcomings, frivolity and weaknesses.
It allows you to withstand any changes in the situation and continue to move forward, regardless of obstacles.

3. Empathize. The most important step in developing strong character is to learn to empathize with other people, especially those weaker than you, and to love other people as you love yourself. This skill can cost you dearly, as you will have to carefully examine your motives in order to be able to empathize selflessly. Empathy differs from sympathy in that empathy requires your direct participation in the lives of others (enter the person's life and help them clear the path), while empathy involves an emotional but passive response without active participation and dedication.

4. Seek the truth. Prefer reason to ordinary emotions. A person with a strong character examines all the facts with his head and does not give in to prejudices and emotions. Resolve most questions only through reasoning and avoid the chaos of your feelings, understanding that despite the fact that “there is no dispute about taste,” reason should always win with the help of factual evidence and arguments.

5. Don't be a pessimist or an optimist; be a leader. The pessimist complains about the wind, the optimist waits for the end of the storm, and the leader rebuilds the sails and prepares them for any weather.

6. Beware of irrational impulses. Aristotle and Thomas Aquinas believed that there were seven human feelings: love and hate, desire and fear, happiness and sadness, and anger. While not bad in themselves, these emotions often overpower our intellect and cause us to indulge in the wrong things: overeating, being irrationally afraid of something, or letting sadness or anger consume us. In fact, the answer to any question can only be found in the rationality of decisions and in the practice of good habits aimed at freeing oneself from emotions. Excessive and sensual appetites are a sign of weak character, while the ability to withhold rewards and practice self-control indicate strength of character.

7. Be happy with what you have (don't imitate anyone). Appreciate your own strengths. Believing that the grass is always greener somewhere else will ensure you have a miserable life; remember that this is only a projection of your ideas about how other people live. It's better to concentrate on how you live.

8. Dare to take (calculated) risks. If you avoid battles, you deprive yourself of victory and all the benefits that come with them. Don't be cowardly, aloof or shy away from your responsibilities, but be courageous to make your contribution to humanity.

9. Reject any outside advice that contradicts what you have decided for yourself. Every person is driven by their own interests, whether subconsciously or consciously. Don't force anyone to do what you want, but don't allow others to force their opinions on you. Understand and accept the fact that different people will offer you different solutions to the same issue, and that you cannot please everyone. Find the right path and follow it, without turning right or left. Manage yourself and never stray from the right path.

10. Learn to do good and shun/avoid evil. Seek peace and strive for it sincerely. Pursue not personal goals that trample on the needs of other people, but noble and worthy motives that will benefit the whole society. If you pursue your personal goals, you will get involved in conflicts with other people and, in the end, you will definitely fail. If you work for the common good, everyone will benefit and you will be able to satisfy your personal goals at the same time.

11. Learn to control your emotions. Don't let anything other than common sense influence your daily decisions and actions. It may often be difficult, sometimes almost impossible, not to give in to emotions, but you can learn to suppress them and overcome them by relying on prudence and common sense.

12. Be neither wasteful nor stingy, but find a middle ground. The ability to find a middle ground is a sign of a strong character that can withstand extremes.

13. Always remain calm. Calmness is a state that allows you to concentrate and redistribute your divergent thoughts and meditate profitably. Thinking leads to ideas, ideas lead to opportunities, opportunities lead to success. Calmness is the sine qua non of a strong character. Without calmness there is no willpower. Without calm, desires can quickly ignite, turning into an invincible passion and hindering sound thinking. Calmness is not the enemy of emotions, but a regulating force that allows their correct expression.

14. Focus on the positive things in life and don't waste time on the negative things. One day a doctor, to whom a young girl came complaining of a variety of diseases and praying for a cure, told her: “Don’t think about them; this is the most effective of all medicines.” Physical and mental pain can be weakened by one effort of will, directing thoughts in other directions, or strengthened by continuing to think about it.

15. Resist fatalism. Each person carries full responsibility for your own development and destiny. If you accept fatalism, that is, if you believe that fate is somehow predetermined and unchangeable, you will dissuade yourself from any attempt to improve your life and your character. Fate is blind and deaf; she will never hear or see us. Better remember that bug fixes and changes own destiny V better side are sure steps towards developing a strong character and improving your life overall. Pursue your own happiness; don't wait for something or someone to bring it to you because it won't happen unless you are persistent.

16. Have patience - to enthusiastically set, pursue and achieve your goals, be they short-term or long-term: that is, to make progress (success). Success is progress, not a final destination. A person with strong character will not give up when he encounters obstacles on his way, but will persevere until the very end and overcome all obstacles. Learn to suspend gratification in life, learn to wait as you progress, and understand that time can be your friend, that it can be used to learn and grow. Also know which battles you should get involved in and when it is better to retreat; sometimes letting go means accepting the gift of life rather than clinging to a sinking ship.

17. Conquer all fears. Indecision is a serious obstacle to success. Do not allow prejudices based on superficial observations into your life, but accept facts that are based solely on common sense. Don't lay your foundation on sand, but rather build on solid rock. By overcoming fear, you will gain the strength of character that will allow you to think, make decisions, and act like a true winner.

18. Just as a gardener must clear the ground of weeds to allow his garden to grow, so you should eradicate all weak thoughts that, like weeds, undermine your strength. Beware of being overly emotional and give emotions only their true meaning. When you notice that you are tormented by some overwhelming emotion, immediately occupy yourself with something for fifteen minutes, preferably an hour. Many great warriors have lost their lives because they reacted too boldly to insults and went into battle too early against their offenders, without proper preparation, acting extremely hot-tempered and rash. Learn to overcome such weaknesses over time, remembering that anger is a common vice among people of weak character.

19. Practice calm, discretion, discernment and prudence in business. Develop logical thinking and use it in your work.

20. Be truthful in everything and in all aspects of life. If you are not truthful, you are lying, first of all, to yourself, and this will certainly affect your character.

21. Lastly, be the best you can be wherever you are and always try to do the best you can. Work hard and avoid idleness like the plague. At the same time, learn to appreciate good vacation for its ability to restore your strength and inspire you to return to your good deeds every time.

Adviсe

Be disciplined and control yourself. Run away from bad impulses (including habits and actions that you will later regret) - and compulsive behavior that become habits and distort character.

Be a man of your word and avoid the temptation to lie; Honesty maintains strong character. Also learn to make decisions without fear.

Be happy. Happiness is health. Happiness gives you the strength to overcome monotony and get rid of boredom in life. It allows you to make the best of any situation. Happiness is a state of mind. According to observations, poor people smile much more often than the rich on Wall Street.

Follow physical exercise to develop resilience. Mind and body are interconnected. Train your physical toughness to strengthen your mental toughness.

Be good friend. Commit yourself to your friends and be willing to make sacrifices for them. Never hold a grudge or pay attention to minor incidents. Live in harmony with other people. Don't be selfish: always take other people's interests into account.

Hello! I’m already 30, but I can’t find myself because I’m weak in spirit and character. I am quite a decent, handsome young man. And in relationships with girls everything was not bad, but they always left me, precisely because of this reason. But it’s not really about them, it’s about me. I am an adult, reasonable person and therefore I am not afraid to admit it to myself that I have HUGE PROBLEMS due to a lack of self-discipline and weak character. Moreover, the problems are in everything: with work, and with my parents (even though I live in another city), and with girls (I mean serious relationships). Help! Tell me what to do, where to start, this can’t go on any longer! Of course, I won’t climb into a noose, but I can’t live in this state anymore, everything is somehow burdensome. Thank you!

Hello, Denis! You are probably still a strong person if you can see in yourself what you think limits you and hinders you; but it is important not only to see, but also to do something in order to help yourself. Believe me, no one can start a movement except you... The mere fact of accepting your shortcomings is not enough (and sometimes you know, many people attribute their problems to supposed shortcomings, but sometimes it is useful to know and accept your weaknesses and strengths, and adapt precisely with them to this life, sometimes not everything can be changed, but it is important to learn to accept yourself and take responsibility for the relationship, and perhaps then you will meet a person who accepts you). maybe they just didn’t accept you in the relationship as you are, but this doesn’t mean that you have to adapt to someone, because even then it’s unlikely that the person who rejects you will be able to accept you. if you feel that you lack self-discipline, set temporary goals (at first not so difficult and vital) and fulfill them - thus developing willpower. And by weak character, it is difficult to understand what you mean (inability to make decisions, take responsibility for them, immaturity.....). In general, there is something to work on - you know, from a distance it is impossible to give you specific recommendations, nor to figure it out and help you understand what is happening - so come - make up your mind - you can safely contact me - call - I will be glad to help you!

In such cases, people usually begin to work with a psychologist for a long time. A goal is set that you want to achieve and you gradually, step by step, sort out all the difficulties and problems that prevent you from achieving them. In this formulation you have no goal. You just described what you want to get rid of - weakness of character, weakness of spirit. From a situation in which girls leave you and go away.

I dare to suggest that you want to achieve strength of character and fortitude. Okay, so be it, but this is too general and vague a goal. Different people This means different things. What does strength of character mean to you? What will change in life when you become strong spirit? Where will you be and what will you do? HOW will you feel it? Girls will stop throwing, what will happen instead of throwing? These and similar questions are asked by psychologists in order to clarify the goal. You can come with a ready goal and start working or devote 1 session to setting a goal. If this method of work is interesting, please come and we will work. You can look at my website and ask any questions.

Hello, Denis.

What you are writing about, unfortunately, cannot be resolved with one letter. You need to work with this in person and the work is long. It's important to explore everything. Starting with WHAT you call weak character and how it manifests itself in your life, ending with what value (yes!) this state has for you. After all, our body doesn’t do much for nothing. Perhaps for some reason you internally need to do just that. Explore this and learn to intertwine values ​​in a combination that suits only you current state and the values ​​of what you want, it is possible in full-time work. I work with similar requests.

If this is really important to you, I will be glad to help you.

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Sincerely,

Denis, I get the impression (naturally, subjective) that something like you are being disingenuous... Either “I am weak in spirit and character”, then “I am an adult, reasonable person” - 2 different pictures! I think that depending on the situation you change and that’s great! Sometimes it’s advantageous to be like this, and sometimes it’s advantageous to be different!

When "they (the girls) always left me exactly because of this reasons", you specified because of what causes? Maybe because it’s difficult to build serious relationships with “girls”, they’re still girls, not girls, not women!? So you write “everything was not bad in relationships with girls,” i.e. the fact that they broke up was generally not traumatic and they didn’t work on their mistakes?

Are you asking yourself: “Tell me what to do, where to start?” Clarify (for yourself) - where to start, what, and what to “be” about? What do you want? Target? What is your gaze directed at? What do you want to achieve?

Important accept yourself with a “lack of self-discipline and weak character”, having previously researched with a psychologist where, in memory of whom, instead of whom you are with such a set of qualities! These are all your subpersonalities, they are valuable to you, this is YOU! Weak character = kind, flexible, soft, loyal... Lack of self-discipline = free, agile, explosive, generator of ideas... Look for the positives in the apparent "minuses".

And with girls, you are simply not ready to build relationships. For now... And they came up with reasons.