In the twenty-first century, wakes are more reminiscent of pagan funeral feasts, which were held by the ancient Slavs, who hoped that the richer and more magnificent the farewell to the deceased, the better he would live in another world. There were considerations of vanity, prestige, financial condition relatives of the deceased, as well as ignorance Orthodox traditions in this action.

Funerals on days 9 and 40 are very important. According to Orthodox canons, until the 9th day after death, angels show the soul Paradise, and after that they lead the soul to God, and this is how the showing of Paradise to the soul ends. After this, until the 40th day, the soul is shown hell, where they behold the torment of sinners condemned to eternal damnation, she is horrified and “cries bitterly about her deeds.”

Compliance with the norms in the Orthodox funeral meal requires that before it begins, one of the loved ones reads the 17th kathisma from the Psalter in front of a lit lamp or candle. Immediately before eating, read “Our Father...”

Kutya and funeral pancakes are required on the table.

Kutya

Traditional kutya is made from wheat grains, which are washed and soaked for several hours (or overnight), then boiled until tender. Boiled grains are mixed with honey, raisins, poppy seeds to taste. Honey can first be diluted in water in a ratio of 1/2 and wheat grains can be boiled in the solution, then the solution can be drained. Kutya from rice is prepared in the same way. Boiled fluffy rice, then add diluted honey or sugar and raisins (washed, scalded and dried) to it.

Butter pancakes

4 cups flour, 4 cups milk, 3 eggs, 100 g cream, 1 tbsp. spoon of sugar, 25-30 g of yeast, 2 tbsp. tablespoons butter, salt to taste. Pour two glasses of flour into an enamel pan, pour in two glasses of warm milk, after diluting the yeast in it, stir everything well and put in a warm place. When the dough has risen, add the remaining warm milk and flour to it and put it in a warm place again. When it rises again, add beaten egg yolks, sugar, salt, melted butter. Mix well, add whipped cream and egg whites and mix again. Place the dough in a warm place for 15-20 minutes. After this, bake pancakes.

Sample dishes for a funeral meal:

Snacks and salads

Ham rolls with cheese and garlic

Compound
ham (preferably sliced) - 300 g,
processed cheese - 2 pcs (200 g) or hard cheese,
eggs (hard-boiled) - 3 pcs.
garlic - 2 cloves,
greenery,
mayonnaise

Preparation

Cut the ham (if not sliced) into thin slices
Separate the yolks from the whites of boiled eggs.
Grate the whites onto coarse grater.
Grate the yolks on a fine grater into another bowl.
Grate the processed cheese on a coarse grater.
Wash the greens, dry and finely chop.

Combine grated cheese, egg whites, herbs and garlic. Add mayonnaise and mix the filling well.
Place 1 dessert or tablespoon of filling on the edge of a slice of ham.
And roll it up.
Dip each roll in mayonnaise on both ends and roll in grated yolks.
Place the rolls on a platter lined with lettuce leaves and garnish with herbs.

Tomatoes stuffed with fish salad

Compound
tomatoes - 5-6 pcs,
eggs - 5 pcs,
canned fish in oil - 1 can (200 g),
greenery,
salt pepper

Preparation

Wash the tomatoes. Cut off the tops of the tomatoes and carefully scoop out the pulp with a teaspoon and place it separately.
Boil the eggs and grate them on a coarse grater (you can chop them finely), mix with the tomato pulp.
Mash the canned fish with a fork and season with mayonnaise (you can add a little finely grated cheese).
Salt, pepper and add herbs. Combine eggs and mashed canned food and mix well.
Salt the inside of the tomatoes and carefully fill with the filling with a teaspoon.
Place the finished tomatoes on a plate and garnish with herbs. You can place small handfuls of finely grated cheese on top of the tomatoes or garnish with green peas.

Eggplant appetizer with tomatoes and garlic

Compound
eggplants - 2 pcs.
tomatoes - 4-5 pcs,
garlic - 2-3 cloves,
cilantro or parsley,

salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the eggplants, dry and cut into circles, 0.5-0.7 mm thick.
Wash the tomatoes, dry and cut into circles.

Peel the garlic and pass through a garlic press or crush a clove of garlic, pressing it with the flat side of a wide knife, then chop finely.
Lightly salt and pepper the eggplant mugs.
Place the eggplants in a frying pan heated with vegetable oil and fry over medium heat for 3-4 minutes (you should get a golden brown crust).
Turn the eggplants over and fry for another 3-4 minutes until done.
The fried mugs can be placed on a paper napkin to absorb excess oil.
Place the eggplants on a dish, alternating with tomato slices, sprinkle with garlic and herbs.
* This dish can be stored for several days in the refrigerator if you put it in a small saucepan in layers: eggplants, put tomato slices on top, sprinkle with salt, pepper, chopped garlic and herbs. Thus, continue to lay out vegetables, alternating layers. The eggplants will be soaked in tomato juice, and the dish will be even tastier.

Sandwiches with sprats

Compound
half a white loaf
sprats (canned in oil) - 1 can
mayonnaise,
garlic - 1-2 cloves
pickled cucumbers - 2-3 pcs (you can use lemon instead of cucumbers),
greenery

Preparation

Cut the loaf into slices and fry each slice on both sides in vegetable oil.
Rub the fried loaf slices with garlic.
Grease each slice with mayonnaise and add a slice of pickled cucumber or a thin slice of lemon.

* you can not rub each piece of loaf with garlic, but mix the garlic with mayonnaise, and then spread the slices of bread with this garlic mayonnaise
Place one or two sprouts on top and decorate with herbs.

Beet salad with garlic

Compound
beets - 2 pcs.,
garlic - 2 cloves,
cheese - 70-100 g,
mayonnaise,
salt,
walnuts, raisins or prunes - optional

Preparation

Wash the beets (do not peel), wrap each one in foil and bake in the oven at 180° ~60-80 minutes (depending on the size of the beets) or boil until tender.
Peel the boiled beets and grate them on a coarse grater.

Grate the cheese.
In a bowl, combine beets, garlic and cheese.
Season the salad with mayonnaise, add salt to taste and transfer to a salad bowl.

* If desired, you can add chopped walnuts, raisins or steamed and finely chopped prunes to the salad

Vegetable salad

Compound
bell pepper - 1 piece,
tomatoes - 2 pcs,
cucumbers - 1 piece,
canned corn,
vegetable oil,
salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the vegetables. Remove the skin from the cucumbers and cut into small cubes. Cut the tomato into cubes too. Place tomatoes and cucumbers in a salad bowl, add diced red bell pepper And canned corn. Season the salad with salt and pepper to taste, mix well and season with vegetable oil.

Salad “Spring freshness”

Compound
cucumber - 1 piece,
tomatoes - 1-2 pcs,
radishes - 4 pcs.
dill greens,
granular cottage cheese - 1 tablespoon,
natural yogurt - 1-2 tablespoons,
salt

Preparation

Wash and dry the vegetables.
Using a sharp knife, cut off the skin of the tomato and set it aside for rose decoration. Cut the tomatoes into strips.
Cut the cucumber into strips.
Cut the radishes into half circles or small slices.
Chop the greens.
Place the vegetables in a salad bowl, add salt and mix.
Add a little grainy cottage cheese to the salad and season with natural yogurt or sour cream.
The salad is prepared immediately before serving.

Vinaigrette with herring

Compound
herring - 1 pc.
potatoes - 2-3 pcs.
beets - 1 pc.
carrots - 1 pc.
onion head - 1 pc.
pickled cucumbers - 2 pcs.
vinegar - to taste
salt
pepper
green salad leaves.

Soak herring in strong tea, separate the fillet from the bones, cut into small pieces. Boil potatoes, beets, carrots, cool, peel, cut into small cubes. Finely chop the cucumbers. Combine all ingredients, mix, season to taste with salt, pepper, vinegar, vegetable oil, garnish with lettuce leaves.

Olivie

Compound
boiled sausage (or boiled/fried poultry fillet) - 250g,
potatoes - 2-3 pieces,
pickled or pickled cucumbers - 2 pcs.
eggs - 4 pcs,
green peas - 0.5 cups,
boiled carrots (optional component) - 1 piece,
mayonnaise,
salt to taste

Preparation

Cut sausage or boiled chicken into cubes. Cut boiled potatoes, boiled carrots, boiled eggs, pickled or pickled cucumbers into small cubes. Add green pea.
Mix everything and season the salad with mayonnaise.

Cabbage salad with crab sticks

Compound
cabbage - 300g,
crab sticks— 100g,
corn - half a jar (400 grams),
mayonnaise

Preparation

Wash and chop fresh cabbage. Finely chop the crab sticks.
Place shredded cabbage in a salad bowl (mash the cabbage a little with your hands to make it softer), add chopped crab sticks, half a jar of corn and season with mayonnaise. Mix the salad well and serve.

Hot dishes

Chicken legs stewed in sour cream

Legs 4 pcs
Sour cream – 250g
Tomato – 1 piece
Sweet pepper – 1 piece
Salt pepper
Cut the legs in half and fry in a frying pan, preferably without oil, until golden brown. Then put them in a bowl for stewing, pour in sour cream and cut the tomato and pepper into cubes, add salt and pepper. Cover the dish with a lid and simmer over low heat until done

Cutlets baked with mushrooms and cheese

Compound
minced meat (pork + beef) - 500 g,
onions - 2 pcs.
white bread or loaf - 1-2 slices,
cheese - 100-150 g,
champignons - 150-200 g,
parsley,
garlic - 2 cloves,
mayonnaise or sour cream,
salt,
black pepper,
vegetable oil for frying

Preparation

Peel the onion and chop finely.
Peel the garlic and pass through a garlic squeezer or finely chop.
Grate the cheese.
Wash the champignons, dry and cut into slices.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, over medium heat, fry the onion and garlic for 2-3 minutes.
Place half the fried onion in a bowl and set aside.
Add the champignons to the onions remaining in the pan and fry, stirring, for 8-10 minutes (if desired, you can fry the mushrooms until golden brown or just lightly fry). Salt and pepper.
Crumble yesterday's white bread without crusts or a bun, pour in milk and leave to swell. Squeeze the swollen bread well.
TO minced meat add squeezed bread, fried onions with garlic, herbs, salt, pepper, mix well and beat the minced meat several times, throwing the minced meat into a bowl or on the table.
Form the minced meat into round cutlets and fry on both sides until golden brown.
Place the cutlets on a baking sheet or in a baking dish.
Grease each cutlet with mayonnaise or sour cream and add a pile of fried mushrooms and onions.
Sprinkle cheese on top.
Bake at 180°C ~25 minutes.

Meat in French

Compound
pork - 400-500 g,
onions - 3-4 pcs,
hard cheese - 200-300 g,
mayonnaise - 400 g,
pepper,
salt,
greenery

Preparation

Wash the meat, dry it and cut it across the grain into layers 1 cm thick.
Beat each layer of meat well, add salt and pepper.
Peel the onion and cut into rings or half rings.
Grate the cheese on a coarse grater.
Place the meat on a greased baking sheet.
Place onion on top of the meat (not in a very thick layer).
Pour mayonnaise over the meat.
Sprinkle with grated cheese.
Bake for 25 minutes at 180°C.
Let the finished meat sit for 10-15 minutes. Serve hot, sprinkled with herbs.

Stuffed peppers

Compound
minced meat (pork + beef) - 400 g,
pepper - 7-10 pcs,
rice (dry) - 2-3 tablespoons,
onion - 1 piece,
carrots - 1 piece,
garlic 2 cloves,
tomato - 1-2 pcs,
parsley, dill,
tomato paste - 1 tablespoon,
sugar - 1/4 teaspoon,
vegetable oil for frying,
salt,
pepper

for tomato sour cream sauce
tomato paste - 2-3 tablespoons,
sour cream - 200 g,
water - 1-1.5 cups (more is possible)

Preparation

Wash the peppers, carefully cut out the seed box and rinse them again to remove the seeds.
In a saucepan or frying pan heated with vegetable oil, lightly fry the peppers on all sides and transfer them to a plate.
Prepare the filling:
Rinse the rice and boil until half cooked in salted water. Drain the water.


In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, fry the onion for 3 minutes, add the carrots and fry, stirring occasionally, for 4-5 minutes.
In a large bowl, combine minced meat, rice and fried onions and carrots.
Wash the tomato, dry it and grate it on a coarse grater, discard the skin.

Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Add tomato mixture to the minced meat, tomato paste, herbs, garlic, salt, sugar, pepper and mix well.
Fill the prepared peppers with the resulting minced meat.
Place the peppers in a saucepan or other thick-walled container.
Prepare tomato-sour cream sauce:
Combine sour cream with tomato paste, dilute the sauce with water, salt and pepper.
Pour the resulting sauce over the peppers.
Cover the saucepan with a lid. Over medium heat, bring the liquid to a boil and reduce heat.
Cook the peppers for 40 minutes.
Turn off the heat and let it brew under the lid for another 10 minutes.
When serving, sprinkle with herbs and sour cream.

If the funeral takes place in fast days, then the food should be lean.

If the commemoration took place during Lent, then weekdays the funeral service is not held, but is postponed to the next (forward) Saturday or Sunday. This is done because only on these days (Saturday and Sunday) are full Divine Liturgies, and after proskomedia, particles are taken out for the deceased.

Memorial days falling on Bright Week (the first week after Easter) and on Monday the second Easter week, are transferred to Radonitsa - Tuesday of the second week after Easter.

Lenten food

Lenten pancakes

Lenten pancakes are prepared without adding baked goods (cow butter, eggs, sour cream, sugar, etc.). For lean pancakes you will need: 4 cups of flour (buckwheat or wheat, you can mix both types of flour), 4.5 cups of milk, 20-25 g of yeast, salt to taste. Pour half a glass of warm milk into an enamel pan and dilute the yeast in it, add another one and a half glasses of milk. While stirring, add 2 cups of flour. Mix the dough well, cover the pan with a towel and place in a warm place. When the dough has risen (increases 2-3 times in volume), add the rest of the flour, milk, salt, stir well and put it back in a warm place. After the dough has risen again, you should bake the pancakes, carefully scooping the dough so that it does not fall. The frying pan is usually first greased with one teaspoon of vegetable oil.

Snacks and salads

Sandwiches "Spring"

Compound
white or brown bread - 4 slices,
Guacamole sauce or avocado pulp (optional component in the recipe) - 4-6 teaspoons,
tomato - 1 piece,
cucumber - 0.5-1 pcs (small),
lettuce leaves,
basil or dill greens,
lemon - 1/3-1/2 pcs,
salt,
black pepper

Preparation

Cut white or black bread into slices (if desired, the bread can be fried in vegetable or olive oil and cooled).
Spread the slices of bread with Guacamole sauce.

* if you don’t have Guacamole sauce, you can simply chop the avocado pulp with a fork, add salt, and sprinkle with lemon juice - spread this avocado cream on the bread
* if there is no avocado, you can not grease the bread with anything at all, but immediately start placing vegetables on the slices of bread or, if the bread is fried, you can rub it with half a garlic clove

Wash the tomato and cut into circles.
Cut the cucumber into circles.
Wash the lettuce leaves and dry them.
Wash and dry the dill or basil.
Place lettuce leaves, tomato slices, cucumber slices on slices of bread.
Salt the sandwiches coarse salt, pepper and sprinkle with lemon juice.

Fish jelly

1 kg. any fish (preferably several varieties), 1 pc. carrots, 1 onion, 1 parsley root, 1.5 l. fish broth, salt, pepper.

Cut fresh or frozen fish, divide into pieces and salt. In the prepared fish waste broth, boil pieces of fish together with roots and spices, then take out the fish, strain the broth, pour it over the fish and put it in a cold place to harden.

The vinaigrette

Compound
potatoes - 2-3 pcs,
beets - 1 piece,
carrots - 1-2 pcs,
sauerkraut - 100-150 g,
onion - 1 piece,
salted or pickled cucumbers - 2-3 medium pieces,
vegetable oil,
green onions - optional
salt

Preparation

Wash potatoes, beets, carrots well.
Place the vegetables in a saucepan, add water, bring to a boil and cook until tender.

* If desired, vegetables can be wrapped in foil and baked in the oven at 180°C until cooked. Each vegetable must be wrapped separately in foil.

Peel boiled vegetables and cut into small cubes.
Peel the onion and chop finely.
Cut the cucumbers into cubes.
Squeeze the sauerkraut a little from the brine.
Add a little vegetable oil to the beets and stir - then the beets will not color the rest of the vegetables.
Combine together: potatoes, carrots, onions, cucumbers, cabbage, season with oil and mix gently.
Add beets, salt to taste and mix everything together again.
When serving, you can sprinkle with green onions.

Salad of Chinese (white) cabbage with tomatoes

Compound
Chinese or white cabbage - 1/3 of a small cabbage,
tomatoes - 2-3 pcs,
bell pepper - 1 piece,
vegetable oil,
salt

Preparation

Wash the cabbage, drain and chop.
Wash the tomatoes, remove the stems and cut into small slices or cubes.
Wash the bell pepper, remove the seeds and cut into cubes.
Mash the cabbage a little with your hands so that it releases the juice and put it in a salad bowl.
Add tomatoes and peppers.
Salt the salad (you can lightly sprinkle it with lemon juice) and season with vegetable oil.

Potato salad with pickled mushrooms and green peas

Compound
potatoes - 6-8 pcs,
onion - 1 piece,
pickled champignons or other mushrooms - 1 jar,
pickled cucumbers - 4-5 pcs,
green peas - 1 can,
greens (optional),
salt,
pepper,
vegetable oil

Preparation

Wash the potatoes well and cook in their skins until tender. Peel and cut into cubes.
Drain the liquid from the marinated mushrooms and cut into slices.
Cut pickled cucumbers into small cubes.
Peel the onion and cut into half rings or quarter rings.
Drain liquid from green peas.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Combine the prepared ingredients: potatoes, mushrooms, cucumbers, onions, green peas, herbs, salt, pepper.
Season the salad with oil and mix.

Canned fish salad with green onions

Compound
canned fish - 1 can,
olives - 0.5 cans,
green onions,
potatoes - 2-3 pcs,
lean mayonnaise or salad dressing

for salad dressing

vegetable oil - 2 tbsp. spoons,
lemon juice - 1 tbsp
pepper,
salt

Preparation

Mash the canned food with a fork.
Boil the potatoes, cool and cut into cubes.
Cut the olives into rings.
Chop the green onions.
Combine canned food, potatoes, onions, olives, season with salad dressing or lean mayonnaise, add salt to taste and stir.
Salad dressing: vegetable oil, lemon juice, pepper, salt - combine all ingredients.

Hot dishes

Eggplant stuffed with mushrooms

Compound
eggplants - 2 pcs.
bell pepper - 1-2 pcs,
onion - 1 piece,
tomatoes - 2 pcs.
champignons - 150 g,
garlic - 2-3 cloves,
parsley or cilantro,
walnuts,
vegetable oil,
salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the eggplants, cut off the stems and cut each eggplant lengthwise into 2 halves.
Carefully cut out the flesh from each half using a knife or spoon and set aside.
Place the hollow eggplant boats on a baking sheet or in a baking dish, salt them on the inside and grease them with vegetable oil.
Bake the boats at 230 degrees for 10-15 minutes.
Peel the onion and chop finely.
Wash the pepper, cut out the seed box and cut into small cubes.
Cut the eggplant pulp into small cubes.
Wash the champignons, dry and cut into slices or small cubes.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Peel the garlic and pass through a garlic press.
In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, fry the onion for 2 minutes.
Add pepper and cook for another 4 minutes, stirring.
Add eggplant and stir-fry for 7 minutes until eggplant is cooked through. Salt and pepper.

* When the eggplants are ready, you can add grated tomato without skin, stir and simmer for another 4 minutes.

Add chopped herbs, garlic and stir.
In a separate pan, fry the champignons for 8-10 minutes.
Combine eggplants with mushrooms and mix the filling well.
Remove the eggplant boats from the oven and fill them with filling.
You can sprinkle crushed walnuts on top of the eggplants.
Bake in an oven preheated to 200 degrees for 10 minutes.
When serving, sprinkle with chopped herbs.

Lenten cabbage rolls with vegetables and champignons

Compound
cabbage - 1 medium head,
rice (dry) - 100-120 g (about 0.5-0.75 cups),
tomatoes - 1-2 pcs (optional),
onions - 1-2 pcs,
carrots - 1-2 pcs,
champignons - 150-200 g,
garlic - 1-2 cloves,
parsley, dill,
tomato paste or tomato sauce 1-2 tablespoons,
vegetable oil for frying,
salt,
pepper

for filling

tomato paste or tomato sauce 3-4 tablespoons,
water - 0.5-0.75 liters,
salt

Preparation

Wash the head of cabbage and separate it into leaves.
Place cabbage leaves in boiling salted water for 2-4 minutes until the leaves are soft. Immerse 2-3 sheets in water at a time.
Remove the boiled leaves using a slotted spoon and place in a colander. Cool.
Cut off thickenings from each leaf.
Prepare the filling.
Boil the rice until half cooked (5 minutes).
Wash the champignons and cut into slices.
Wash the tomatoes, peel them and cut the pulp into small cubes.
Peel the garlic and chop finely.
Wash the greens, dry and chop.
Peel the onion and chop finely.
Wash the carrots, peel and grate on a coarse grater.
In a frying pan heated with vegetable oil, fry the onion for 2 minutes, then add the carrots and fry together for another 3-4 minutes.
Place the onions and carrots in a bowl and fry the champignons in the remaining oil for 4 minutes.
Combine together: rice, onions with carrots, champignons, tomatoes, garlic, herbs, salt, pepper (you can add 1-2 tablespoons of tomato paste) and mix the filling well.
Place 1-1.5 tablespoons of filling on the prepared cabbage leaves and roll up the cabbage rolls.
Fry the cabbage rolls in hot vegetable oil for 2 minutes on each side.

Prepare the filling: combine water, tomato paste, add a little salt and mix well.
Pour the filling over the cabbage rolls, cover with a lid and bring to a boil over high heat.
As soon as the liquid boils, reduce the heat to low and cook at low simmer for 30-40 minutes.

Oat cutlets

Compound
oatmeal - 1 cup,
water (boiling water) - 0.5 cups,
fresh champignons - 3-4 pcs,
potatoes - 1 piece,
onion - 1 piece,
garlic - 2 cloves,
greenery,
salt,
pepper,
vegetable oil for frying

Preparation

Pour oatmeal into a bowl or saucepan, pour boiling water, cover with a lid and leave to swell for 20-30 minutes.
Peel the potatoes, wash and grate on a fine grater.
Peel the onion and grate it on a fine grater.
Cut the champignons into small cubes.
Chop the greens.
Pass the garlic through a garlic press.
Add potatoes, onions, garlic, mushrooms and herbs to the swollen oatmeal - mix the mixture well, add salt and pepper.
The oatmeal mass should not be too thick and not too liquid - so that you can scoop it up with a spoon.
Place oatcakes in a frying pan heated with vegetable oil using a tablespoon.
Fry the cutlets over medium heat on one side until golden brown.
Turn over to the other side, fry for 1 minute over medium heat, then reduce the heat to low, cover and cook for 5 minutes.
Cutlets can be served with fresh vegetables or mashed potatoes.

Fish with vegetables baked in mayonnaise

Compound
fish fillet - 300-400 g,
potatoes - 5-6 pcs,
carrots - 2 pcs.
onions - 2 pcs.
mayonnaise,
salt,
pepper

Preparation

Wash the fish fillet, dry it and cut into portions.
Cut the potatoes into large cubes.
Cut the carrots into cubes.
Cut the onion into rings.
Place a layer of fish in a greased baking dish, add a little salt and pepper, place chopped vegetables on top: potatoes, carrots, onions - add a little salt and pepper to the vegetables and pour mayonnaise over everything.
Place the fish and vegetables in the oven over medium heat and bake for 40 minutes until cooked through.

Pies

From Lenten yeast dough prepared according to this recipe, you can bake pies with with different fillings, open and closed.
Ingredients: 2.2 kg of flour, 2 cups of warm water, 1 cup of vegetable oil (0.75 cup is possible), 30-40 g of yeast, 1 teaspoon of salt.
To prepare lean yeast dough according to this recipe, you need to dissolve the yeast in 0.5 cups of warm water and place in a warm place. When the yeast foams, knead the dough from the indicated products, cover with a towel and place in a warm place.
Knead twice and form pies. If the filling is juicy, you need to make a hole in the middle of the pie so that it does not burst from the steam during baking. The surface of the pie is brushed with strong sweet tea and baked at 180 degrees until done. After baking, lightly brush the cake with boiled water, cover with a towel and let it rest.

Pie fillings

Apple filling

Wash the apples, peel them, removing the seeds (you don’t have to cut off the skin, as it contains aromatic essential oils), cut into slices. Place the apples in a bowl, add granulated sugar, butter, a little water and simmer.

Potato filling

Potatoes - 7-10 pcs. average size; onions - 3 pcs.; butter - 4 tbsp. spoons; eggs - 2 pcs.; salt and pepper - to taste.
Instructions: Peel, rinse, boil, mash until smooth, add raw eggs, oil, sauteed onion, salt, pepper and mix thoroughly.

Fish filling

fish fillet 600 g, 2 onions, flour 1 tablespoon, vegetable oil 4 tablespoons, Bay leaf, salt, pepper, herbs to taste
Wash the fillet, salt and fry on both sides. Then cool and pass through a meat grinder. Finely chop the onion, fry until pink, add flour and fry until light brown. Then dilute with a small amount of water or broth to the consistency of thick sour cream, add minced fish and mix everything well.

Stuffed rice with mushrooms

rice 3 tablespoons, fresh mushrooms 100-150 g, vegetable oil, water 3 glasses for cooking rice, onion 1, wheat flour 1 teaspoon, salt, pepper to taste
Cook the rice. Peel the mushrooms and boil in salted water until tender. Pass the cooked mushrooms through a meat grinder and fry. Prepare the sauce as follows: pour vegetable oil into a frying pan, heat it and fry finely chopped onion in it. Add a tablespoon of flour and fry it until it turns light brown. After this, pour in about a glass of water, and the mixture should have the consistency of thick sour cream. After boiling the mixture for 10 minutes, add salt, pepper, and chopped herbs. Mix the sauce with rice and minced mushrooms.

Fresh cabbage filling

Chop 1 head of medium-sized white cabbage and add salt. After 10 minutes, squeeze it out, put it in a saucepan, pour in 2 tablespoons of vegetable oil, add grated carrots or, if you like, finely chopped onion. Fry, stirring, until soft so that the cabbage does not brown. When it cools down, add ground black pepper and finely chopped dill.

Orthodox canons establish that funeral table there should be no alcohol, because the main thing in a wake is not food, but prayer, which is clearly incompatible with drunk, in which it is hardly permissible to ask the Lord to improve the afterlife fate of the deceased.

Beverages

Gingerbread cookies, gingerbread cookies, pancakes, and sweets are served with drinks, but cakes and pastries are not recommended.

Kissel

Nowadays they cook liquid sweet fruit jelly, but in the old days jelly (jelly - sour) was prepared from flour - rye, oatmeal, wheat - with sourdough and sourdough. Oatmeal jelly was thick, it was cut with a knife and eaten with a spoon (remember milk rivers with jelly banks in Russian folk tales). That's why in funeral custom The jelly was preserved in this form: with milk. Oatmeal You can make it yourself by grinding oatmeal in a coffee grinder.

Oatmeal jelly

2 cups oatmeal, 2 tablespoons honey, 8 cups water, salt to taste. Pour warm water over the oatmeal and mix well so that there are no lumps. Let it swell for 6-8 hours (you can leave it overnight). Then strain through a sieve, add honey, salt and cook, stirring, until thickened. Pour hot jelly into molds, let it harden and cut into portions with a knife.

Cranberry jelly

200-400 g cranberries, 6-8 tbsp. spoons of sugar, 4-6 tbsp. spoons of potato starch.
Sort the cranberries, rinse, rub through a sieve, squeeze out the juice. Pour the marc with five times the amount of hot water, bring to a boil, strain. Cool part of the broth and dilute potato starch in it. Put sugar in the remaining broth, boil it, then pour in the diluted starch, squeezed juice and bring to a boil. Pour into a dish, sprinkle with powdered sugar to prevent a film from forming, and cool.

Apple jelly

Finely chop 2-3 pounds of apples, boil in water with a piece of cinnamon, strain through a sieve; Mix 5 glasses of this juice with 1/4-1/2 pound of sugar, grated with lemon zest, squeeze the juice out of 1/2 lemon, boil, pour in flour diluted with 1 glass of cooled apple broth, boil thoroughly, stirring constantly.
take: 6-8 apples, cinnamon, 1/2 lemon, 1/2-1 cup. sugar, 1/2-3/4 cup. potato flour.

Dried apple jelly

Take 1/2 pound of dried apples, pour 6 cups of water into them, boil the apples, strain and rub through a sieve, pour into a saucepan, add 1/4 or 1/2 cup of sugar, boil, pour in a glass of water mixed with 1/4 or Boil 1/2 cup potato flour, stirring vigorously, pour into mold, cool, serve.

Raspberry, red or black currant jelly, cherries or plums

Pour the berries with water, boil, grind with a spoon, strain, take 5 cups of this juice, add 1/4 or 1/2 pound of sugar, grated with lemon zest, boil, pour in flour diluted with 1 cup cold water, etc. Serve sugar separately.

Take: 1-1.5 lb. berries, 1/2-1 cup. sugar, 1 cup. potato flour, lemon zest, sugar.

Cranberry juice

For 2 liters of water – 250g cranberries. Mash the cranberries and squeeze out the juice through cheesecloth, put the pulp in water, bring to a boil and boil for 7-8 minutes. Leave for 30 minutes to cool. Strain through cheesecloth, add juice and sugar to taste.

Bread kvass

half a loaf of rye bread;
3 liters of boiled water;
half a pack (25-30 grams) of dry yeast;
half a cup (125 grams) of sugar;
raisin.

Preparation

Cut the rye bread into regular pieces and cut into quarters. Place in one row on a baking sheet and place in a low-heat oven. The bread should dry thoroughly and lightly brown, best done over low heat. Dry the crackers for about 10-15 minutes, then turn off the oven, leaving the baking sheet in it.

Place the finished crackers in a non-oxidizing container (an ordinary three-liter jar is perfect for these purposes) and pour boiling water over them up to the shoulders of the bottle. Add three tablespoons of sugar and leave to cool. Not a large number of water, for example, a glass or even less, cool to body temperature or slightly higher and pour dry yeast into the water. When the water in the jar has cooled to about 36-37 degrees, pour the diluted yeast into the jar and mix thoroughly.

After this, cover the jar with the future kvass with a lid or saucer and set aside in a warm place for 2 days.

After this period, carefully strain the infusion through a very fine sieve or cheesecloth to completely separate the grounds. Place the grounds in a separate jar.

Add the remaining sugar to the strained infusion and mix thoroughly until it dissolves. Add a well-washed handful of raisins to the infusion and leave at room temperature for another half day. After this, pour the kvass into plastic bottles and carefully tighten the lids, because The kvass must be very well sealed. Place the bottles with the finished product in the refrigerator and after a day you can drink the kvass.
The grounds obtained during the preparation of kvass do not need to be thrown away, but stored in the refrigerator for a long time. glass jar. Now this is ready-made sourdough, and when preparing the second portion of kvass, instead of diluted yeast, add 4 tablespoons of sourdough to the breadcrumbs. Next, everything is as in the recipe: let it brew for two days, drain, add sugar and raisins, let it sit again and put the bottles in the refrigerator. It is better to renew the starter, i.e. leave the last portion of grounds.

Lemonade recipe

To prepare lemonade, cut 5 lemons into slices, remove the seeds, put in a saucepan, add 300 g of sugar, pour in 2 liters of water and put on fire until one fifth of the liquid has boiled away.
Place the drink in the refrigerator. Serve lemonade with ice cubes

Sbiten

Dissolve 100 g of honey and sugar in 1 liter of boiled water, add cinnamon, cloves and boil for 15-20 minutes, and then strain.
Sbiten is served hot.

The funeral meal ends with a general prayer of thanksgiving.

Death loved one- this is a great grief. But, unfortunately, it cannot be avoided. If a dear person dies, then loved ones have many questions. Where to bury? How to think through the menu correctly? Is a canteen or cafe better suited for such an event? And this is far from full list questions. Today we will talk specifically about the funeral.

Such a meal is not just a meal, but a ritual during which loved ones remember the deceased and his good deeds. During this event, people read a prayer addressed to God. They ask to forgive the deceased all his sins. Of course, proper consideration must be given to funeral dinner, the menu of which must be compiled correctly. To make it easier for you to decide on the list of dishes, we will tell you what you need to prepare for this event and why.

Principles of a funeral dinner

Lunch itself should be simple. Its main goal is to maintain the physical and mental strength of those who came to remember the deceased. Everything must be prepared from fresh ingredients. This is how a funeral dinner should be. Its menu can be varied. It all depends on the traditions of the family, wealth, as well as the preferences of the people who come to remember. Although, of course, guests are not traditionally invited, they come themselves.

A funeral dinner is not a feast during which those who come need to be fed to their fullest. The purpose of the wake is to satisfy the guests, thank them for their participation, remember the deceased, and pray for his soul. Here, as you understand, the main thing is not food, but people - dead and living, who were united by the grief of parting.

Planning a funeral dinner

We will describe the menu a little later, now we will look at the main dishes that should be at this lunch. Firstly, (the second option is kolivo). What it is? It is cooked from grains (rice, barley and others), sweetened with honey and raisins. This dish is consecrated at a memorial service. Grain here is a symbol of the resurrection of the soul, and honey and raisins denote spiritual sweetness.

What do you need?

The list of products is small:

• 0.5 kilograms of rice;
• 200 grams of dried apricots;
• three tbsp. l. honey;
• nuts (optional);
• 200 grams of raisins;
• 1 liters of water (for soaking).

How is the dish prepared? Soak the grains in water overnight or for several hours. This is necessary so that the porridge turns out crumbly. You need to cook until done. Towards the end, add honey diluted with water, as well as raisins and dried apricots. This is how kutya turns out.

Borsch

This is another must-try dish. For five liters of water we will need:

• 700 grams of meat on the bone (beef is best);
• three potatoes;
• two onions;
• one beet (small);
• three tomatoes;
• one bell pepper (it is best to use red or green);
• one cabbage;
• a few black peppercorns;
• greenery;
• salt.

Preparing borscht for a funeral dinner

For this dish, first prepare a broth from meat on the bone (cook for two hours). Then you need to add chopped potatoes. Then take a frying pan, pour oil into it, place it on the stove, pour in the finely chopped onion. After about three minutes, add carrots and beets (also chopped, of course) to the pan. If you treat beets this way, they will be able to retain their color.

The carrots will take on a bright, orange hue. Vegetables need to be simmered in a frying pan until they become soft. Remember that carrots, onions and beets retain their flavor and greatest number vitamins when cooked over high heat. Then pour the contents of the frying pan into the broth, boil everything a little, add shredded cabbage, bay leaves, a few black peppercorns, chopped tomatoes and sweet peppers.

Cook for another 15 minutes. Then you need to taste the dish and add salt. After which you can turn off the heat and remove the borscht from the stove. The dish should be served hot, with sour cream. You can sprinkle with herbs.

Sweet

You can buy pies, or you can bake them yourself. We offer a recipe for banana puffs. What do you need?

• packaging of finished dough (500 g);
• bananas (200-300 grams);
• powdered sugar (to taste).

Preparing sweets for the funeral

Take ready puff pastry. Let it thaw, then roll it out. Then take a knife and draw rectangles with it. Place banana filling on them (fruit cut into small pieces). Then bring the edges of the dough together so that the filling is completely enclosed. Next, pin the products a little. Bake in an oven preheated to 220 degrees for about fifteen minutes. The products should be browned. Sprinkle the finished puff pastries with powdered sugar.

Compote

For preparation, you can use both fresh and frozen fruits. Compote should not be sweet or too sour. How to cook? Place a five-liter pot of water on the fire, let it boil, add fruit (about a 1-liter filled jar). Then add sugar (to taste) and cook until tender (about an hour).

The first menu option for thirty people

Now let's talk about what a funeral dinner should be like. The menu after the funeral may vary. We offer ours:

If you are hosting a memorial dinner for the year, this menu would be perfect for the event. Kutya, however, can be removed from the list. It is a mandatory dish only at wakes after funerals. And then - as you wish.

Second menu option for 12 people

Now let’s look at a sample menu for a funeral lunch in a cafe or at home (for forty days). So, the list of products:

• fish fried in batter (two kilograms);
• mashed potatoes (2.5-3 kilograms);
• Olivier salad (two kilograms);
• cutlets (12 pieces, approximately 1.2 kg of minced meat);
• sandwiches with red fish or sprats;
• pies with cabbage or potatoes (12-15 pieces);
• pickled cucumbers and tomatoes (about 1 kg);
• 5 liters of liquid (water + juices + compote)
• candies and sweet pies (optional).

If you plan to hold another memorial dinner later, the menu for six months, for example, could be the same. Although, of course, you can adjust the list of dishes at your discretion.

Lean

As you think through everything, pay attention to whether the commemoration falls during the post. If the answer is yes, then the funeral dinner (menu) needs to be adjusted. A Lenten set of dishes will not only be appropriate. but even necessary. What to prepare for such a funeral? How to adjust the usual menu, making it lean? Now let's make an approximate list of foods:

• uzvar;
• lean borsch;
• Kutya;
• Lenten pies;
• potatoes with mushrooms;
• cabbage or carrot cutlets;
• vegetable salad (cabbage, tomatoes, cucumbers);
• the vinaigrette.

Alcohol

We described in detail how to properly think through a funeral dinner, we also discussed its menu. Now let's touch on another important topic. “Which one?” - you ask. Should you drink alcohol during a funeral? There is no clear answer to this question. Some priests believe that during the funeral dinner it is possible to drink a little red wine. The Church condemns the consumption of alcoholic beverages during such a ceremony. Therefore, here you must decide for yourself whether you need alcohol at the funeral dinner or not.

Conclusion

Now you know how to make a funeral dinner correctly. We reviewed the menu in detail. We have offered you a couple of options sample lists dishes for funerals. We hope that our tips helped you decide on the choice of food for such a lunch.

In Russia it is customary to celebrate important dates- during life, these are birthdays, and after death, remember the day of departure. This date is especially important for Christians. After all, they believe in the resurrection and the next eternal life with God blessing. Therefore, the existence of the soul has no end for believers. How can one honorably, in a Christian manner, remember the deceased on the anniversary of his death?

Funeral traditions

In Orthodoxy, it is customary to remember the dead; the ancient Slavs also had such a ritual. It takes place on the day of the funeral itself, then 9 or 40 days later. On the anniversary of death, it is also customary to gather for a special meal. How to remember the deceased if he was a Christian? The most important thing is, of course, prayer. It is also necessary to refrain from heavy libations, or better yet, from alcohol altogether. Under no circumstances should ceremonial commemorations turn into riotous fun. This is very far from Christian traditions.

In addition to private prayer, on the anniversary of death in the church they order:

• a special commemoration during the Liturgy is the morning service, during which pieces are taken from the consecrated bread for the departed. It is customary to order the so-called “Sorokoust” - they will commemorate at forty services;

• memorial service - usually served on Saturdays, but you can arrange with the priest for another day. You can come to the funeral service weekly, but the anniversary is a particularly important day;

• Lithium is another type of funeral service, it is somewhat shorter than a memorial service. It is served at any time; you can bring a priest to the cemetery to perform it.

It is imperative that the family members and friends of the deceased themselves pray at any memorial. After all, the priest cannot convey the feelings and emotions that loved ones experience. He acts as a performer of the ritual. Of course, his prayer has power, but you cannot entrust everything to others. After all we're talking about about the posthumous fate of a loved one.

But this is not all that is ordered in the church. The Psalter is appropriate for the anniversary of death. Usually it is ordered from monasteries and is done for a long time. Depending on the donation for a month, six months or whole year. Again, be sure to remember the deceased yourself every day. For this purpose in morning rule There are special short prayers.

Church shops sell special books where you can write down everyone who needs to be remembered. You can take this book to church so that you don’t forget anyone when submitting notes. When the deacon or priest reads the notes, be sure to pray yourself.

Other days of remembrance

There are both private funerals and special church holidays, when it is customary to go to cemeteries. This is the so-called “parents day”, it is celebrated several times. On these days, we also need to remember the dead, regardless of when they passed away.

• The 2nd Tuesday after Easter is a moving day. In some Russian regions there is a tradition of visiting graves on the day Christ's Resurrection, although this is not officially approved - Easter is such a bright day that it is believed that there are no dead on this day.

Even if this is not the anniversary of death, the joyful words “Christ is Risen!” all the departed must hear. The name of the memorable day is appropriate - Radonitsa. For everyone there is hope for eternity with God, so this day is intended for shared joy - in heaven and on earth. It is customary to have a meal at graves, bring colored eggs, pancakes, and distribute the leftovers of the meal to the poor.

All the deceased are also commemorated on other days:

• Trinity Saturday is the Saturday before Pentecost;

• Meat Saturday - before the start of Lent;

• Saturdays during Great Lent - 2nd, 3rd, 4th.

A deceased person is still a member universal church, so you can always order memorial services.

How to spend a sad anniversary

A dignified death is the crown of a believer’s life. IN daily prayers there are petitions that God will grant a shameless death. Orthodox Christians strive to confess and receive communion before meeting the Creator. There are special rituals that are performed on the dying person. After death they are no longer repeated.

In order for the anniversary of death to be celebrated with dignity, it is necessary to begin the commemoration in the temple. This could be a presence at the Liturgy, then at a memorial service, or simply a pre-ordered lithium. After this, go to the cemetery, perform a civil memorial service there, or read the 17th kathisma. After this, have a meal, remember the deceased, and clean the grave. Drinking vodka, especially pouring it on a grave, is not Orthodox custom, which will not help the deceased in any way!

It is better to bring fresh flowers to graves; this is in accordance with Christian traditions. There is never artificial greenery in churches, because God has no dead. At one time, the church even tried to ban the tradition of decorating coffins with wreaths with inscriptions, but it was not easy to defeat it. This custom is not so much caused by greed or paganism, but is aimed against vandalism, which, unfortunately, is often found in Russian cemeteries.

But you can and should abstain from drinking. The pain of loss is great, but we must find other ways to cope with it. It is unlikely that the deceased will be pleased with such behavior. It is better not to spend money on intoxicating drinks, but to distribute it to the poor as a way to commemorate the soul.

How to remember the deceased for a year after death at home

You can commemorate the death anniversary at home. It happens that it is impossible to go to the cemetery due to various circumstances. Then it is necessary to invite everyone who wants to participate to prepare a special meal. The customs of placing a device for the deceased and covering mirrors are not Orthodox.

Before sitting down to the table, you need to pray. One of the relatives must read the 17th kathisma, or the rite of requiem. Candles are lit during prayer. Then you can start eating. It must be held with dignity, conversations must be decent, jokes and laughter are inappropriate.

Pagan meals for the dead were held with great pomp. It was believed that the more expensive and magnificent the funeral feast, the better it would be for the newly deceased beyond the grave. Triznes were accompanied not only by copious libations, but also by dances, songs, and competitions. The meaning of Christian funerals and wakes is completely different. They must maintain the prayerful memory of a person who is not even considered dead, but has passed on to another world.

Special dishes are served at the table. Kutya is definitely one of them. This is wheat porridge, which is sometimes replaced with rice. But its main feature is that it is prepared sweet, seasoned with raisins, other dried fruits, and honey. It is advisable to consecrate this food during the service. The sweetness symbolizes the joy that awaits the righteous in heaven.

• Also a traditional funeral dish are pancakes, which are usually washed down with jelly.

• Table setting should be ordinary. You can place fresh fir branches on the table and decorate the edges of the tablecloth with black lace.

• Each change of dishes should be accompanied by the prayer: “Rest, O Lord, the soul of Thy servant (name).” You should also pray after your meal. But thank the owners for funeral meal not accepted.

When everything has been read necessary prayers, someone can read poetry on the anniversary of death. There are no church prohibitions on this matter. Poems should remind of the virtues of the deceased, of his spiritual qualities. Of course, everyone has shortcomings, but Christians trust in God’s mercy, try not to remember them, but to pray for their sins to be forgiven.

It is customary to celebrate the anniversary of death not only in Russia. The dead are also commemorated in Asian countries. Japan, Vietnam, Korea and China have their own traditions. Followers of Judaism commemorate deceased parents, brothers, and children. True, their anniversary date does not coincide with the generally accepted calendar. During the funeral, it is customary to fast, meat and wine are prohibited.

How to honor the deceased yourself

What prayers are read at home on the anniversary of death to remember the deceased? The Psalter is best suited; the reading instructions are indicated in every Orthodox publication. In this case, between the psalms there are special prayers where the names of the deceased are mentioned. This is the most the best option. You can also read akathists, but the Psalms were written much earlier. Also everyone Christian churches acknowledge their inspiration.

There are cases when the Church Charter prohibits commemorating the deceased at the Liturgy, ordering memorial services for them, or holding a funeral service. This applies to those who were baptized, but did not regularly go to church, that is, were not churched. A person who takes part in confession and Communion is considered to be a churchgoer; all others are considered “parishioners.”

True, in practice, deviations from this rule are often made. It all depends on the ruling bishop. In any case, it is necessary to clarify this issue with the clergy.

It is also clearly prohibited on behalf of the Church to commemorate those who took their own lives voluntarily. If a person died in war while protecting others, it is not considered suicide. In general, death in war is one of the most honorable. But death from a drug overdose is a type of suicide.

However, the holy fathers teach to hope in God's mercy. You are allowed to pray for such people in private; there is even a special akathist for suicides, compiled in the last century. You can also add something of your own, but you shouldn’t be too zealous either. We do not know all spiritual laws; such prayers can end in mental disorder for someone who wants to do a good deed.

Why remember the dead

When a person graduated earthly path, he does not need a magnificent funeral, nor an expensive coffin or marble monument. Prayer is the main help we can provide to our deceased loved ones. This is not just a tribute to tradition, but a saving thread that can lead a person to the Kingdom of God. It is especially important to pray in the first days when the soul goes through ordeals. But even after a year or two has passed, this must be done.

Since ancient times, Russia has preserved the tradition of celebrating memorable dates, and people honor not only the birthdays of living people, but also the days of departure from the other world. This is due to the fact that Christians believe in a further afterlife with God. Many citizens do not know how to properly perform a funeral service for 1 year. The rules are quite simple; they help the deceased find peace in the next world.

Commemoration is the oldest ritual that was carried out back in Ancient Rus'. The main purpose of this ritual is to honor the memory of the deceased and facilitate his stay in heaven.. The basis of the wake is a meal, which the relatives of the deceased spend in his apartment, cafe, or directly at the cemetery. When the anniversary of death is commemorated, and how to honor it, you can find out in the temple.

Memorials are celebrated on the following days:

• on the day of death or the next day;
• on the 3rd day after death. Most often this day is the day of the funeral;
• on day 9;
• on day 40;
• in the future, the meal is carried out on the sixth month from the date of death, and all subsequent anniversaries.

The most important is the commemoration on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after repose. In Christianity, they are of the opinion that for the first 2 days after leaving for another world, the human soul is still on earth and goes around all its native places. On the third day the soul goes to bow to God.

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For the next 7 days, angels will show the soul life in heaven and the beauty of paradise. On the 9th day, the soul is again sent to worship God, after which it is led to the kingdom of darkness - hell - for 30 days.

For a month, the soul of the deceased is shown the eternal torment of sinners. At the end, on the 40th day, the soul is again taken to bow to God, where a decision is made in which exact place the soul will be until the Last Judgment.

In addition, you can remember a deceased relative on the following days:

• second Tuesday after Easter. On the holiday itself, it is not worth remembering the dead, since Easter is a holiday of living people;
• the next Saturday before Lent;
• 2, 3, 4 Saturdays of Great Lent.

Since a baptized deceased person is a member Orthodox Church, you can order a memorial service and magpie for him at almost any time.

It is important to know! If the anniversary coincides with an important day church holiday, it is recommended to postpone it to the next day.

Commemoration in church

The most important thing for remembering the deceased is not the meal, but prayer. If the deceased was a Christian, there is nothing more valuable to him than prayer on the anniversary of death. In addition, clergy advise relatives to refrain from a luxurious dinner and alcohol on the anniversary of death.

Lunch should be quite simple and modest. Funerals for 1 year and all subsequent times should absolutely not turn into a cheerful feast, since such a pastime is not welcomed by Christian traditions.

In addition to personal prayer, you must order a commemoration in the church for the year:

• remembrance at the proskomedia. This rite represents the first part of the liturgy, during which the priest takes out small pieces from the prosphora for peace and health.
• most often the “sorokoust” is ordered, then the deceased will be commemorated at 40 services in a row;
• memorial service. Usually held in churches on Saturdays or Sundays, but if necessary, you can arrange with the priest to hold it on another day;
• lithium. Another common type of funeral service. It can be done at any time. It is also possible for a priest to visit the cemetery.

The most important condition is that the deceased is remembered by all his relatives. The priest does not always know the deceased personally, so he cannot express the emotions that friends and relatives experience.

The priest, in fact, is only the performer of the ritual. The rules of the event allow for ordering the reading of the Psalter. This service is more often carried out in monasteries, since it is designed for long time. Depending on the size of the donation, the service will be held for a month, six months or even a year.

It is important to know! When ordering a service in a church, you can include in the note not only the name of the deceased, but also other deceased relatives.

Basic Rules

The rules for holding a memorial service in 1 year are such that the event must first begin with a visit to the church. Only after relatives have ordered a special service can they go to the cemetery and perform a civil memorial service.

After this, the relatives must clean up the grave, mention how good the person was, what good deeds he did. It would also be a good idea to bring fresh flowers. It is very important to remember that you are allowed to go to the cemetery only in the first half of the day.

After completing these steps, you can start eating. It is permissible to carry it out not only in the house of the deceased, but also in a cafe. The clergy do not advise having a luxurious dinner; the dishes should be quite simple. As for alcohol, only red wine is allowed to drink; vodka cannot be placed on the table.

Funeral dinner

How to remember the deceased on the anniversary of death should be decided only by relatives. But clergy advise paying attention to the oldest traditions. Often loved ones ask the question not only how to commemorate, but also with what. Lunch dishes should be modest. Be sure to prepare not only the first and second, but also kutya (wheat porridge with raisins, candied fruits and honey). It is recommended to make snacks on this day (especially if you decided to put wine on the table). From alcoholic drinks It is allowed to use cognac and Cahors. Sparkling wines are not suitable for this occasion.

Often parishioners ask priests what they order in the church on the anniversary of a death, if it falls on a fast. In this case, there should be mainly Lenten dishes and lots of baked goods.

If the commemoration takes place in a cafe, you need to ask the employees to turn off the music and TV. Entertainment is not permitted in the adjacent room. You should not make toasts, as it is inappropriate.

It would be better to just say good words about a person, remember his good deeds or read poetry on the anniversary of his death. You can also share warm memories with relatives.

Reference! What is forbidden to do on the anniversary of death is to say words that denigrate the deceased.

Remember at home

If relatives do not have the opportunity to go to the cemetery, how to remember the deceased and what to do in this case. In such a situation, you need to invite everyone home and prepare a special lunch. Many people mistakenly believe that in 1 year the rules imply covering mirrors in the apartment and placing a cutlery for the deceased on the table. The clergy claim that these traditions exist, but they do not apply to the Orthodox, so it is not necessary to adhere to them.

Every person who comes to the house must pray before sitting down to the table. It is advisable that the apartment be lit at this time. church candles. After reading the prayer, you can start eating. Relatives are allowed to talk at the table. The main thing is that there is no gossip, jokes or bad language, as this is inappropriate.

According to Christian traditions, dishes that are served to the table must be blessed. In addition to the first and second meals, lunch also includes dessert. Sweets must be present on the table, as they symbolize the joy that awaits all righteous Christians in heaven.

When preparing the table, you can consider the following tips:

1. One of traditional dishes Pancakes count at funerals. Usually they are washed down with fresh jelly or full jelly (honey dissolved in water).
2. It is recommended to place several fir branches on the table, and black ribbons can be attached to the tablecloth.
3. During the change of dishes, it is necessary to read a prayer for repose. Also, prayers on the death anniversary of 1 year (and all subsequent ones) are read after the meal.
4. When leaving, the owners do not need to say words of gratitude. This is not accepted at funerals.

Independent mention

If a person does not have the opportunity to go to a funeral, you can remember the deceased at home. There is no need to host a lunch for this. As you know, celebrating the anniversary of death involves reading a prayer.

This option will be optimal. Most clergy advise reading the Psalter. How to do this correctly is usually described in detail in the appendix to the book. Be sure to read between psalms special prayers, and mention in them the names of deceased relatives. This type of remembrance is the best.

There are some exceptions in which the church does not allow commemoration of the deceased during the Liturgy. This applies to people who were baptized but never went to church. It is believed that this indicates that the person was an unbeliever during his lifetime. The clergy call such people parishioners.

Also, the church never remembers those who have committed suicide, since this is a voluntary rejection of God’s main gift - life. This rule also applies to those people who died from a drug overdose, since such a death is also considered suicide.

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Let's sum it up

That's all today more people prefer to order a service in church and believes that this is enough. Despite the fact that clergy can also turn to the Almighty with a request for forgiveness of earthly sins, relatives should also pray for the deceased.

Appeals from priests, as mediators and executors of God’s will on earth, reach the Savior faster, but reading prayers at home is also mandatory. First of all, the soul of the deceased hears precisely the words of relatives, and not church ministers, so family and friends definitely need to pray.

A wake is an action that is performed to honor the memory of a deceased person. The core of a wake is a communal meal, which is arranged by relatives in the house of the deceased, in a cemetery or in another place.

Funerals are held several times:

• on the day of death of a relative or the next day;
• on the third day after death, the soul of the deceased leaves this world and ascends to heaven (as a rule, this day coincides with the day of the funeral);
• on the ninth day;
• on the fortieth day;
• further, memorial meals are held six months from the date of death, and then all subsequent anniversaries.

As a rule, family members of the deceased and his friends take part in the funeral. For example, you can come to the wake of the ninth day without an invitation. You cannot drive away those who wanted to take part in this ritual. But it is important to remember that wakes are not organized for the sake of those invited, and the set table is not their main component. People do not come to them to take off their negative emotions, stress, and certainly not for the sake of chatting about abstract topics. The main thing at a wake is prayer for the deceased. It is very good, before starting a meal, to read the 17th Kathisma from the Psalter. And before eating, everyone should read the “Our Father” prayer.

Postponement of the funeral date

It often happens that memorial days fall either on a weekday, when it is impossible to leave work to prepare everything for them, or on some religious holiday. In this regard, the question arises as to whether it is possible to postpone the date of the obligatory commemoration, to do it either earlier or later.

The clergy believe that it is not at all necessary to hold a memorial meal on the anniversary of death. If there are objective reasons that prevent you from doing this, then you need to focus on them first.

It is not advisable to remember the dead during the week Happy Easter, as well as during the Holy Week of Lent. At this time, all thoughts should be directed towards: Holy Week- to the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, on Easter week - to the joy of the news of his resurrection. So, if the date of the funeral falls within these periods, it would be most correct to move them to Radonitsa - the day of remembrance of the dead.

If the date of the funeral falls on Christmas Eve, then it would be better to move it to January 8. This is even considered good sign, since the wake is inherently dedicated to the fact of birth already in eternal life.

The clergy also advise us not to forget the fact that prayer for them is first and foremost important to our deceased relatives. Therefore, it is recommended that the day before the funeral, order a Liturgy for the repose of the Soul of the deceased and a Memorial Service for the Day of Remembrance in the church. It is advisable to pray for the deceased. And the funeral itself can be postponed to the next day off after the anniversary of the death. But to postpone the date of the funeral to the fortieth day for more early date in Orthodoxy it is not recommended.

All Souls' Day

There are different religions certain days when you can remember your dead. If for some reason it was not possible to remember your loved ones in right time, you can always do this on Memorial Day, the date of which is in different religions its:

1. In Orthodoxy, as mentioned above, this is Radonitsa - Tuesday of the second week after Easter. It should be noted that this is not the only day of remembrance in Orthodoxy. In addition to Radonitsa, there are five more similar dates.
2. In Catholicism, All Souls' Day falls on November 2. Funeral services on the third, seventh and thirtieth days after death are considered optional.
3. In Islam, it doesn’t matter what day it is, you need to remember the deceased. The main thing is to remember him with prayer and, together with his family, do good deeds on his behalf - give alms, take care of orphans. But the main thing is that it remains a secret in whose name these actions are committed.
4. In Buddhism, the festival of Ulambana is celebrated, which takes place in the seventh month from the first to the fifteenth day. Lunar calendar. Dedicated to commemorating the dead.

Almost everyone knows that they need to remember their dead, but people often forget how and why this is done. There is a connection between the departed and those who remain on earth. Therefore, people whose relative has died are in a state of sadness and anxiety for a long time, they have dreams about the dead, in which they most often ask for food or to do something for them.

As a rule, after similar dreams there is a need to remember them, a need to visit a temple, a need to do some good deeds (for example, give alms). All this has a beneficial effect on the souls of the departed. The inability to hold a memorial ceremony on the same day is not a problem, since you can always leave a note in the temple and a clergyman will conduct it for you.

Our spiritual state influences the state of the dead in other world and in order to help them, you need to start changing yourself and your environment. You can get rid of a bad habit, forgive those for whom resentment has been accumulating for a very long time, and start reading the Bible.

When conducting a funeral ritual, it is always necessary to keep its purpose in mind - when performing a joint prayer, ask the Lord to grant the deceased the Kingdom of Heaven and rest his Soul.