The desire to become more responsible is admirable. At first, such a task seems very difficult, but over time, responsibility becomes a habit! Keep all promises made and commitments made. Organize your time and money properly, take care of yourself and others, and do not forget about physical and emotional needs.

Steps

How to take care of yourself and others

Clean up after yourself without being reminded. Always clean up after yourself and don't leave a mess for others to clean up. Whoever made a mess should take care of cleanliness. Imagine and compare the other person's feelings when he comes home and sees a mess or cleanliness.

• For example, if you've made a sandwich and messed up in the kitchen, take the time to clean up all the food, sweep up the crumbs, and wash the dishes, or at least put them in the dishwasher.

1. Put things right away so you don't have to waste time on it later. Keeping track of personal items like shoes or keys is entirely up to you. If you put them in place immediately after use, then later you will not have to look for the right thing. In addition to order and organization, this shows that you value your things.

   • For example, always hang your keys on a hook or put them on the table when you get home and close the door so you know where they are.

2. Do household chores without being reminded. Doing what you are asked is a sign of responsibility, but you should also learn to help around the house without being reminded to show concern for yourself and others. Show that you are responsible enough to notice needs and do useful things on your own initiative.

   • For example, you noticed that no one took out the trash today. You don't have to leave it to anyone else. Take the initiative in your own hands.
   • Let's say no one thought about dinner. Discuss your suggestions and cook dinner for the whole family.

3. Put other people's needs ahead of your own. If you have family, friends, and pets, the responsibility is to put their needs ahead of your own. This does not mean that you need to forget about yourself, but you can meet your needs later if your loved ones need your help right now.

   • For example, you are very hungry, but your younger sister cut herself and she needs help. Obviously, the cut should be taken care of first.
   • Learn to separate "needs" from "wants". For example, you want to meet friends, but your parents need you to stay at home and look after your brother. Walking with friends may seem like a need, but it's more of a desire.

4. Be consistent. Responsibility is devalued if it has an accidental character. If you want to become a responsible person, then choose a procedure that is convenient for you and follow it. For example, you do not need to study ten hours in a row, then to forget about the lessons for several weeks. It is better to spend 1 hour every day and review the material regularly, rather than cramming it all at once.

   • To be consistent, you need to keep your word and keep the promises you make to yourself and others.
   • Be a reliable person so that people can trust you and your word.

   How to show maturity in a relationship

   1. Take responsibility for your actions. If you did something wrong, you need to admit it. We all make mistakes, there are no exceptions, but only responsible people are ready to admit their mistakes.

      • Even if no one "caught" you in hot, admit that you made a mistake. For example, if you accidentally broke a friend's thing, then you do not need to try to hide this fact. Say, "I'm sorry, I accidentally broke your sunglasses. Can I buy you new glasses?"

   2. Speak the truth to maintain sincere relationships. A harmless lie, like saying you like your friend's scarf, is unlikely to be a problem if you don't, but if there is a major deception in the relationship (for example, you lied about what you're doing), there can be serious consequences. Be extremely honest with people, because only sincere people are responsible enough to tell the truth.

      • Often, after deception, you need to maintain a fictional story, which is very difficult.

   3. Stay in touch with family and friends. Don't let the relationship fade away. Organize meetings or host social events to show your responsibility and desire to spend time with loved ones.

      • Offer your help if needed. Perhaps one day you too will need the help of friends.
      • Find time for personal meetings. Be responsible enough to organize your time and arrange meetings with loved ones in advance.
      • Do not look at your phone while chatting. People are more important than social media news.

   4. Look for solutions, not guilty ones. Every relationship has problems. It is necessary not to blame other people for everything, but to find solutions. Responsible people look for solutions, not guilty people.

      • For example, you correspond with a relative, and various misunderstandings constantly occur between you, which develop into quarrels.
      • No need to blame the interlocutor. Offer to meet and think about how to solve the problem. For example, agree to write more specifically or ask for clarifications when there is a lack of information.
      • Try to solve the problem, not attack the person. Personal attacks are a road to nowhere.

   5. Think and only then speak. Irresponsible people rush to say whatever comes to their mind, including curses and insults. Always consider your future words. You can't let anger take over.

      • If you're too angry to follow the words, silently count to ten and take deep, calming breaths. You can also say to the interlocutor: "I need a couple of minutes to calm down. Then we can continue the conversation. I do not want to say something that I will regret."

   6. Learn to think about other people's thoughts and feelings. People know how to empathize and sympathize. When you want to say or do something, think about how it will make the other person feel. When in doubt, think about how you would feel. If this is an insult, then it is better to reconsider your words or actions.

      • We are not responsible for other people's feelings, but we are responsible for our words or actions towards them. Responsible people are able to empathize and put themselves in the place of others in a particular situation.

   How to plan your time

   1. Schedule to schedule time. Any paper task planner or special electronic application will help you remember your responsibilities. That way you won't forget everything you need to do. In addition, the planner will help you find out how you spend your time.

      • Record all appointments, places, and responsibilities in a diary. Set a time for each task, such as "Dishes from 15:15 to 15:30", "Homework from 15:30 to 16:30" and so on.
      • View your schedule throughout the day so you don't forget anything.

   2. Remember that business is time, and fun is hour. One of the qualities of responsible people is not to put off work until later. First you need to complete the tasks, and then you can relax and rest with peace of mind.

      • For example, if you need to wash the dishes, but you want to go out, then wash the dishes first. Then go for a walk and don't worry about having unfinished business.

   3. Keep track of how much time you spend on social media. People don't even realize how much time they take. It may seem that you do not have time to do business, but you will have time to do everything if you forget about your phone, tablet or computer for a while.

      • Use an application that will limit the time of games and social networks on your smartphone or computer. Learn to be responsible with your time.

   4. Benefit the community. Try to take care not only about your personal life, but also about the society in which you live. We all live among people, so make time for other people and help improve the life of your city. Set aside time each month to volunteer.

      • Volunteering doesn't have to be boring! Find an activity in line with your hobbies, whether it's nature or books. So, you can participate in cleaning the park or help in the library.

   5. Fulfill long-term commitments. It's easy to remember new and interesting responsibilities, but over time, the feeling of novelty will fade. If you have become a member of a club, volunteer or created a public organization, then do not forget about the obligations you have taken on even after many months.

CLASS HOUR "What it means to be responsible"

Target: Raising Responsible Behavior

Tasks:

1. to promote the development of a sense of responsibility in schoolchildren;

2. to promote the formation in children of the ability to analyze their actions and character traits, to predict the consequences of their actions:

3. convince students that a person who knows how to be responsible for his actions is worthy of respect.

STUDY PROCESS

1. Org. moment.

2. Emotional mood.

(We form a circle of joy, holding hands standing at the desks)

Hello everyone who came to visit us today.

Hello everyone who believes in kindness.

Hello, everyone who, sparing no effort,

Shares his happiness.

I ask you guys to turn to face each other, join hands and convey your warmth in a circle to all classmates. It will multiply several times and will return to you with warmth, tenderness, good mood. We sit down at the desks.

3. Work on the topic.

Let's talk

Human society is divided into children and adults.

What is the difference between adults and children?

(children answer that adults have more responsibility for children, they are responsible for raising children, they are educated people, wise and experienced, they have more rights, adults try to make children have a happy childhood).

Do you consider your childhood happy?

(Children argue convincingly that they are happy that they live in such a house, they are taken care of here, they are loved here, brought up, beautifully dressed, tasty food, there are hobby classes, there are many guests in the orphanage who are not indifferent to children ... ) , i.e. adults, taking care of children, are responsible for their actions.

"I am responsible for my actions." How do you understand these words? (Everyone can speak on the topic, depending on how he understands it).

A ) I(emphasis on this word) and no one else.

b) Emphasis on the word I answer(it means that I think, I make a decision, I act as I thought it over and I bear responsibility for my actions).

c) For their and nobody else.

d) answer for deeds, so I consciously make a choice, I understand what will happen as a result, what will be the consequences of my actions.

The answer - I answer - responsibility.

Today we will talk about responsibility. Find out what it means to be responsible? More and more often you hear from adults "BE MORE RESPONSIBLE!" By being responsible, you definitely develop character.

What is responsibility anyway?

Responsibility- it means to do your duty, to do your actions, to think before you do anything, to try to do everything as best as possible.

Responsibility -duty and readiness to answer for the committed actions, deeds and their consequences.

Now I will ask you to remember a case from your life when you entered responsible and irresponsible...

On the board is an exhibition of drawings "My good deed"

Tell us about a time when you acted responsibly from your point of view.

What feelings did you experience?

Match this feeling with color.

(assume the same only from the opposite situation)

What conclusion can be drawn about your responsible actions?

Conclusion:

– showing responsibility, we receive gratitude, gifts, the world seems bright and bright.

And what conclusion can be drawn about irresponsibility?

Conclusion:

-when we behave irresponsibly, we cause censure, punishment, the world appears in dark colors.

Well done! Everyone coped with the task, which means they reacted to the task responsibly.

4. Attention game(Children stand in a circle or near desks.)

I will name some actions. If I name something that means fulfilling my duties, you clap your hands and say "responsibility", if I name a bad deed, you sit down and say nothing.

Tidy up at home or at school (+)

Put the blame on others for your act (-)

First finish the work, and then play. (+)

You keep working even if the work is very difficult. (+)

Leaving things in a mess for others to clean up after you (-)

First you think, then you do. (+)

Do not pay attention to the ringing bell for the lesson, play (-)

Raise your hand if you want to ask or answer (+)

Do not clear the table and do not wash the dishes, mom will do everything herself (-)

Be attentive, active in the lesson (+)

responsibly.

5. Definition of the SECRET OF LIFE

You probably noticed that the choice can be different in different situations.

There are actions that we have already developed so much in our lives that we don’t even notice that we always do the right thing:

2) say "thank you" and "please", etc.

It has become our habit, brought up from childhood.

But even these good deeds are constantly manifested in each of us, if we want it, if we are responsible for them. This is the manifestation of good will. But do we always use this choice correctly?

Today we started a difficult conversation about how to do the right thing, why you should always, in any situation, think over your decisions and take your time to do things, so that later it would not be excruciatingly painful, ashamed of your choice.

Let's analyze what can happen as a result in our daily life, if we are guided by the principle: “I want and I can”, “I don’t want, but I have to”.

“I want and I can. (say a word)

1) I want to study "excellently" - ... I will learn;

2) I want to help my mother - .... I will clean the room;

4) I want to be healthy - .... I will be tempered;

5) I want to be strong - .... I will go in for sports;

6) I want to learn how to weave from beads - .... I will attend the circle;

7) I want to become a respected person - ... make the right choice of my actions

"I don't want to, but I have to" - Speech on behalf of the parents.

Dima's dad is a driver.

I work as a bus driver. I have to get up early every morning and go to work. Sometimes I want to sleep so much, but I understand very well that if I don’t go to work or I’m late, then ... What do you think will happen then?

Alena's mother is a doctor.

I work as a doctor in an ambulance. I have to work not only during the day, but also at night. Our team goes to the sick as soon as the call arrives. We know that we need to hurry in order to help the patient as soon as possible. What do you think would happen if we said we didn't want to go?

Summing up.

Well done! Worked actively, coped with the task, which means you are doing everything responsibly.

6. THE TRUST SCENE

And now the guys will present to your attention a scene

ALINA: Mom, can I go with the girls to the skating rink.

MOTHER: No Alina! I do not allow you to go to the skating rink with your girlfriends today.

ALINA: Mom, you don't trust me?

MOTHER: You are right, Alina. I do not trust you. Why? Think for yourself, Alina. Think. (Mom leaves, shaking her head.)

ALINA(with herself). What does she mean? I am 10 years old. I am her daughter. She must trust me.

Remember last week you missed school for no good reason, and told the teacher that she was sick. If a person can lie, then he can do other things. Where was your honesty?

CONSCIENCE-VOICE 3: Hey Alina! It's me, your conscience! Since you have begun to remember, then remember how you keep your promises. How many times have you promised to clean your room and just shoved everything under your bed. And everything would be fine if your mother did not find a family of mice settling down there.

How many times have you promised to return on time from a walk, and each time you were late by two time zones. Where is your accuracy and perseverance?

CONSCIENCE-VOICE 4: Hey Alina! It's me, your conscience! What happened to your responsibility. When you went to your girlfriend and left your three-year-old brother unattended, and you promised to play with him while your mother was not at home. Where is your responsibility? Where is your reliability and care?

ALINA: Well, okay, okay, that's enough. Maybe I, however, have not always been honest, decent, responsible, reliable. Nobody's perfect. From today I will begin to be worthy of my mother's trust. I will do well and I will not do bad!

Questions:

How do you think? Will Alina be able to be worthy of her mother's trust?

What does she need to do to do this?

When can this happen?

Be responsible for your actions before your conscience and other people

Well done, you have prepared this task responsibly.

7. Working with pictures "How to avoid trouble" No. 1,2,3 (didactic game)

The guys name the dangerous situations in which the children in the drawings got into.

What conclusion can be drawn?

"A person who canbe responsible for one's actions - worth respect".

Take responsibility for your actions to yourself

8. Table of increasing responsibility

Over the years, the responsibility of a person does not decrease, but only grows.

Responsibility to yourself

Responsibility to conscience, other people
Responsibility before the law, the state

9. Couplets of their own composition about responsible behavior (read aloud to yourself)

10. Happiness - hail

14 people post rainbow pieces on a board (or draw) with rules

Building a cluster. The song "Good Road" sounds

R (red) Don't let anyone down.

A (orange) Follow the rules of conduct.

D (yellow) Be able to be responsible for their deeds, actions.

Y (green) Perform duties well.

G (blue) Be reliable, executive.

A (blue) Keep promises.

(violet) Don't wait for reminders, checks.

Well done! Everyone coped with the task, which means they reacted to the game responsibly.

What would happen if the student who had the red and green pencils refused to hang up his stripe.

(Rainbow wouldn't work)

How would the student act?

(Irresponsible)

Above the rainbow is attached the sun (1 student), on which is written: "Rules of responsibility."

Be able to take responsibility for your actions… What does that mean?

(read the rules of responsibility)

Optionally attach clouds (3 students):

1. Apply the experience of others in your life.

2. Understand that rash actions can harm me and others.

3. Understand that bad habits must be constantly fought, since bad habits are instilled quickly, and good ones only through an effort of will.

Look at our board.

We can call the sun, rainbow and clouds the “Happinessgram”, because when you help others, do good to people, then your soul becomes warm and joyful.

OUR SECRET: HEART

Our secret is the heart that will tell you what to do, what choice to make in this or that case, because I think you have understood that before you commit any act, you need to think carefully about its consequences.

And if you finally decide to do something good, then do everything with your soul, with a pure heart. And now I remembered the words of S.Ya. Marshak

May every day

And every hour

You will get a new one.

May you have a good mind

And the heart will be smart.

Circle “From heart to heart” (they show with movements “to you” - to a neighbor, “to me” - to yourself with a hand, “everywhere” - around you)

Peace, peace, peace everywhere

Peace is in you, peace is in me!

Light, light, light everywhere.

The light is in you, the light is in me!

Love, love, love everywhere

Love in you, love in me!

(hearts of responsibility give out)

When you do something, open your hearts to better actions ask yourself the questions that are written on your hearts of responsibility: WHAT? FOR WHAT? HOW?

11. Summary of the lesson. (2 students read a poem)

be responsible

Everyone needs a lot.

It is very important

At school and at home.

And in your life

Without him - nowhere.

I forgot I'm responsible

There will be trouble.

Do you remember, my friend,

This important secret.

The result of our conversation will be not only our right words, but also deeds. Let the folk wisdom “Measure seven times, cut once” be your constant guide.

12. Reflection.

Sit comfortably, relax.

Close your eyes and mentally continue the phrase:

“Today’s conversation helped me understand that…”

Responsibility- volitional personal quality, manifested in the exercise of control over human activities. There are external forms that ensure the imposition of responsibility (accountability, punishability, etc.), and internal forms of self-regulation (a sense of responsibility, a sense of duty).

Responsibility is an understanding of the consequences that a person's own decisions or actions may entail.
Responsibility is the ability to realize that the quality of life, the level of success and self-realization of a person depend only on himself.
Responsibility is the willingness to keep all your promises and perform all your duties in the best possible way.
Responsibility is the ability to make decisions in difficult situations not only for yourself, but also for those who depend on you.

What gives us responsibility

Responsibility gives confidence - in yourself and your abilities.
Responsibility brings respect – both self-respect and respect from others.
Responsibility gives opportunities - for self-control and control over the external situation.
Responsibility gives freedom - from misanthropy; a responsible person does not condemn mistakes and does not become depressed at the sight of someone's inappropriate behavior; he simply states that it is not rational to rely on a given person in a given situation.

How does responsibility manifest itself in everyday life?

Parenting. Parents are always responsible for their children.
Labor activity. The head of the company always assumes responsibility for the activities of subordinates; the more responsible person he is, the more efficient and friendly team he is able to create.
Conflict situations. A responsible person in the event of conflict situations is able to independently (responsibly) make a decision for all participants in the situation and, thereby, put the situation under control.
Military service. The commander of a military unit is always responsible for the life and actions of his subordinates.
Execution of obligations. A responsible person tries to complete any business on time and in the best possible way.

How to develop responsibility

Self-control and self-improvement. Attentive attitude to oneself, to one's words, promises and deeds helps a person to become more responsible. The main thing is not to retreat, seeing that not everything is possible right away, since working on oneself is a long process.
Written "orders" to oneself. One of the options that psychologically help to be responsible for your promises and always keep them is to write down on a piece of paper the task that a person sets for himself and the deadlines for its implementation.
Organizational work. Working with people, organizing their coordinated actions is a great help in developing one's own responsibility.
Relationships with children. Communicating with his children, a person finds himself in a situation where he cannot but bear responsibility for them. In the absence of a choice, a person mobilizes and becomes more responsible in the future.

Aphorisms about responsibility

“Freedom means responsibility. That's why people are so afraid of her." Bernard Show

Whatever happens in the world, no one can be sure that he will not be held accountable for this one day. (W. Schwebel)

Take charge of your life and start solving the problems you are facing. They are there to help you grow, not to crush you. Steve Pavlina

The life of one who has relieved himself of responsibility is simplified, the mind is dulled, feelings are liberated. And the result is a new relationship with a new responsibility.

Each person is responsible to all people for all people and for everything. Fyodor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky
The leaf also trembles. And for what can he be held accountable? (S. Lets)

If you can't keep your promise, then don't make it. Pierre Buast

The battle was won not by the one who gave good advice, but by the one who took responsibility for its implementation and ordered it to be carried out. Napoleon Bonaparte

The surest way to keep your word is not to give it. Napoleon Bonaparte

Usually the one who is not responsible even for himself is responsible for everything at once. (Leonid S. Sukhorukov)

Call the fool to account, and then you will be responsible for everything yourself. (Leonid S. Sukhorukov)

Every generation has a responsibility, every generation is challenged to empower the next generation. Alan Hazey

Irresponsibility kills love

God, unlike any person, knows how to solve His own and other people's problems himself ... Therefore, maybe people invented so many gods for themselves so that they would decide everything for them .. Vladimir Borisov

In cases of the little finger, the defendant is the head. Ravil Aleev

Greatness requires great responsibility. Silovan Ramishvili

Higher than the irresponsible is responsible for himself, even higher - responsible for others. So foolish irresponsible think themselves responsible for others. Elena Ermolova

It is easy to be cheerful while in the service of vice. Joseph Addison

Exupery complex: we are responsible for those who were not sent on time.

It's easy not to be afraid of responsibility when you don't feel it.

Personality is created by responsibility. Evgeny Bagashov

People know how to shift their responsibility (when it is not necessary) to anyone, even to God. Say: God is to blame! Vladimir Borisov

The pronoun “we” is usually used when they want to get rid of personal responsibility.

Ignorance of the law is not an excuse. But knowledge often liberates. S. Lec:

Real responsibility is only personal. The man blushes alone. Fazil Iskander

It doesn't matter "who is responsible", what matters is "how it bears". Boris Shapiro

Responsibility is like clothing - you can completely remove it from yourself, but somehow it’s not convenient for people.

Responsibility loves convenience, it will willingly rest on the shoulders of the untouchables. (S. Lets)

The discharged burden of responsibility never falls to the ground, it gently rests on the shoulders of others.

The strong take responsibility, the weak blame the other. So power naturally goes to the worthy. Elena Ermolova

Too few people own too much, and too many people own too little. We live in a sick world. We must learn responsibility. Mary Jo Copeland

The arrow of a damaged compass does not tremble. She is free from liability. Stanislav Jerzy Lec

Man must rediscover in his soul the deepest meaning of responsibility to the world, which means responsibility to something higher than man himself. Vaclav Havel

Whoever sharply expresses his opinions about the actions of others, he obliges himself to act better than others.
V. G. Belinsky

It is impossible to take a single step on this earth without coming into contact with the responsibility and duty that must be fulfilled. (T. Carlyle)

When writing the article, materials from the site were used: Character.net

The term "responsible person" has become quite popular in our time. It can be observed even in job advertisements as a mandatory requirement for a candidate. As a property of a person, the word "responsibility" cannot be found even in large explanatory dictionaries. However, many people have their own opinions regarding its meaning. The characteristic of a responsible person is a very subjective concept. Let's see what responsibility is.

Responsibility is the ability and willingness of an individual to invest his time, money, or part of his freedom to achieve a certain goal. In some cases, the term may also include the ability to be punished for one's actions. In such situations, responsibility implies a certain justice of the individual in the way he treats himself. The person agrees that his actions deserve some reproach, and is ready to bear responsibility for them.

This term is quite ancient, it is found in many languages. Interestingly, in all cases it is associated with the ability to react or respond to something, and is also associated with a certain punishment. Initially, punishment was a quite tangible concept. For example, murder was punished by some compensation for moral and material damage.

Today sense of responsibility is more associated with the ability of a person to keep a given word, as well as to make decisions in which a person acts not only in his own interests. The concept of responsibility is much broader than the term "obligation". However, the second is an integral part of the first.

Responsibility takes place only when there is a relationship between two or more people. That is, such a thing as responsibility does not exist outside of society. At the same time, when it comes to the fact that a person responsibly does something specifically for himself, it still means a personal quality formed in society. There is a clear direct relationship between the closeness of a person's connection with other people and the likelihood that a person will be responsible. For this quality to be formed, you need the experience of responsible relationships and a developed activity reflection. Therefore, this property can only be in a really acting person.

Responsibility, like self-criticism, an essential quality that any leader should have. Nevertheless, in our time, an incorrect attitude towards the concept of a leader has been formed. Everywhere and everywhere the idea is propagated that each person should strive to be ahead of or at the head of any group of people. Unfortunately, such propaganda is a trap for responsible people who lack the skills and inclinations of management. Because of this, they have to suffer and lose their health, doing a business that, in fact, is not their path. This is especially true for young men, who at an early age earn a number of diseases, experiencing severe stress at work.

Thus, responsibility is a social concept, and it is supported by some action. At the same time, the measure of responsibility should be formed by each individual specifically for himself, with an eye to his capabilities.

How to become a responsible person

Responsibility is a skill that can be acquired with some effort. To understand how to become more responsible, it is necessary to consider the existing levels of assessment of this quality. Ask someone you know to analyze you according to the criteria below. Often, after such an assessment, many questions arise, the answers to which will be useful. Since it is not easy to become responsible right away, an external independent look will be very valuable, which will be discussed below.

Levels of personal responsibility

• Zero liability implies that you are playing the role of a dependent. You completely disclaim any responsibility because you consider that someone's concern for you is a self-evident duty. Such a person does not think about how to become more responsible, because he is comfortable in his current position.
• The first level puts you in the position of a performer. Such a person practices the principle "work is not a wolf." Usually such people do nothing until they are told to do something. If the performer is not pushed to take some action, then he will still be at the starting point.
• The second level of responsibility implies that a person takes the position of a specialist. Such people do their work qualitatively, but at the same time they do not put their soul into it. They see their job as a way to earn money and nothing more. You should not expect any initiative from such a person. Such people are not interested in helping or suggesting something. You need to understand that a specialist can leave you at any time if he finds a more profitable occupation. Such people quite often use the phrase "I'm not paid for this", thereby limiting themselves from activities that are not included in the list of their powers.
• The third level is occupied by the responsible employee. Even if such a person does not perform his functions with sufficient quality at the moment, he strives to develop and acquire the necessary skills. Therefore, in the future, a responsible employee will certainly become a professional in his field. The results of his work are important to him, he is quite initiative and open to the exchange of experience. Such a person treats his occupation with interest. He considers his employer's business as his own. Each employee who works with him shoulder to shoulder is perceived by him as a member of the family. A responsible employee never says, "I'm not getting paid for this." When he is entrusted with some business, he does it, and then talks with his superiors about how this work should be paid for both him and his colleagues.
• The fourth level of responsibility is occupied by the local manager. Such a person is a manager who organizes the work of subordinates to achieve their goals. This person takes responsibility for himself and for others. He is not afraid to give orders and make serious decisions, on the correctness of which the fate of many depends. The local leader loves work less because he has to delegate it to his wards, who make it worse than he is. However, it is more correct to entrust it to employees, and not to do it yourself. The local manager organizes the work process in the area entrusted to him.
• The fifth level is for the director, who supervises the lower level bosses. This person is responsible for the business as a whole, while placing tactical decisions in the hands of his wards. It remains for him to formulate a strategy. A person of this level is able to open new directions or close existing ones. He is a professional who makes serious decisions. However, the level of his responsibility is limited solely to the salary received and the prestigious position.
• The sixth level of responsibility is peculiar only to the business owner. It is this person who organizes the business in which he invests his money, time and soul. He is able to be responsible for the result of his actions not only with finances, but also with life. The owner considers his own business as his child, whom he raised for many years. He selects a director who can effectively manage his business, but at any time he can replace him with another. Interestingly, the owner of a large company rarely lights up in public. He is a kind of neck of the CEO, which directs the latter in the right direction. The business owner does not ask himself the question: “How to become a responsible person?”. He is responsible by definition, since the well-being of the whole staff of employees and his own financial condition depend on him.

Do not consider the above levels as positions. They represent levels of personal development. For example, a person who holds the position of director of a large enterprise, from the personal-psychological side, can be an ordinary specialist or performer. At the same time, his secretary, psychologically, may well turn out to be the owner. Often there are men who at work manifest themselves as effective leaders, and at home they turn into dependents or performers. It is not uncommon for women housewives to take full responsibility, choosing for themselves the role of the owner of the family. At the same time, they raise their husband as the head of the family.

Raising a sense of responsibility is to teach yourself to see your obligations, as well as to be able to fulfill them and pay for the consequences. Moreover, the payment can be expressed in time or in money. You must be able to pay for your own mistakes even when you don't want to.

Since it is not easy to develop responsibility right away, you can perform the following tasks to acquire this quality:

• First of all, you need to make responsibility one of your values. You need to realize that this quality is a very important social skill that gives you a chance to noticeably improve your life. Development of responsibility personality is a process that requires only your desire. You should have a desire to cultivate this quality in yourself. Take responsibility for your family life. Then you can realize, for example, that the author of any resentment that arises in a relationship is only you.
• You can practice developing personal responsibility by asking yourself questions about what you can do now and what options you have. It is very helpful to replace "I want" requests with questions about what needs to be done in order to get what I want.
• You can develop responsibility by asking yourself more often: “What should I do to be fully responsible for my actions?”
• Since developing a sense of responsibility alone is not always easy, you can choose your mentor(partner) who will encourage and penalize you if necessary. It is better to select a person who can adequately assess your development and control your life. The partner will motivate you to follow a certain labor discipline, without postponing any tasks for later.
• It will not be superfluous to send reports on your development to your partner remotely at regular intervals. It is enough to do this 2 times a week. You can come up with penalties for non-compliance with deadlines and methods of rewarding for a responsible approach to this issue. By doing this for twenty-one days, you will be able to develop a good habit to some extent.

Now you know what it means to be a responsible person. With effort, you will soon notice certain changes in your life. The development of personal responsibility according to the above scenario will allow us to see good results in the near future.

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The Austrian psychologist, philosopher and humanist Viktor Frankl once subtly noted that responsibility is the basis of the foundations of human existence. Indeed, for any adult, responsibility is a strictly mandatory quality, unless, of course, he wants to be independent, successful and happy. We will talk about how to become more responsible in this material.

Responsibility: why is it important?

In today's world, many people, unfortunately, absolutely do not want to grow up. Having reached the age of majority or later, they still continue to sit on the neck of their parents, the state, or even their spouse - husband or wife. They play computer games, spend time on the Internet or in bad company on the street and completely forget that their role in life is also to find a decent job, get a good salary and provide for a family.

To achieve these goals, to become a respected and worthy person in all respects, only a responsible person can. A responsible person understands that in each individual situation he has a huge variety of options, knows how to make decisions and knows that his life time is limited. Such an individual appreciates every free minute, tries to use it for his own benefit and never shifts responsibility for his actions, feelings and thoughts to other people or circumstances. He does not blame others for his failures and mistakes and knows that in order to change something, you need to start with yourself and change yourself.

Let us return to Frankl, who, by the way, developed a whole theory dedicated to the meaning of life and responsibility, calling it logotherapy (from the Greek “logos”, which means “meaning”). According to the famous Austrian doctor, responsibility is what life itself puts a person in front of and what many of us strive to avoid. He often compared responsibility to an abyss, very deep and frightening, but at the same time very majestic.

A prominent psychologist notes that our future and the future of other people depend entirely on us. After all, every second only we make a choice and make a single decision, implement or, conversely, miss the opportunity that is available at a given moment in time. And on what decision we make, depends not only our behavior, but also the behavior, as well as the attitude of others towards us.

About overly responsible people

But there is another extreme - excessive responsibility, which, by the way, is characteristic of quite a few people. For example, people with a shy character often suffer from it. Individuals who lack self-confidence and low self-esteem often project their fears into the future. Suppose they are often afraid to call or take the first step before meeting an interesting person, because they are set up to refuse and think that a potential interlocutor will not communicate with them due to being busy, unwilling to build relationships and communicate with them. Thus, they take responsibility for the feelings, thoughts and actions of other people in advance, thereby programming themselves for failure.

If we talk about excessive responsibility in general, then in essence, this is actually the same as irresponsible behavior, since a person thinks about others, but stops thinking about himself, taking care of himself and his needs.

How to become more responsible?

For those wishing to get rid of excessive responsibility and control, two books can be recommended for reading: Henry Cloud - "Barriers" and Susan Jeffers - "Fear, but act!" In the first of the proposed works, it is well explained what exactly we ourselves are responsible for, and what other people are responsible for. In particular, we are responsible to others and to ourselves. Along the way, the book will teach you to set personal boundaries, make the right choice, despite the manipulation and emerging feelings of the interlocutor, say “No” in various life situations, etc.

The second book is a popular bestseller from a specialist in the field of positive psychology. The study of this creation, by the way, will be very helpful for those people who suffer from shyness, indecision and various fears.

Take responsibility for your life. In other words, realize that in every single situation you have thousands of possibilities and choices. But this choice is made by you, and not by anyone else.

Remember the finiteness of our life. Appreciate every free minute and do not forget that in every single moment you also make a choice. Some decisions are up, others are down.

Try not to shift responsibility to others or external circumstances. Many people often attribute failures to an unhappy childhood, psychological trauma and blame others (parents, spouses, etc.). This is an unconstructive position. To become more responsible, you need to gradually remove yourself from the place of a child and take the position of an adult who is responsible for everything in his life himself.

In relationships with other people, divide the responsibility in half. Remember that any relationship (business, personal, etc.) must be equal. Equal responsibility - does not mean that your companion, business partner or leader should behave the same way as you. This means that each of us has his own burden and duty to fulfill properly. You are responsible only for your side and do not climb into someone else's territory.

Get rid of the Inner Talker, which Susan Jeffers writes about in a book. The Inner Talker is that monologue that you carry on with yourself, preventing you from overcoming your fears and taking responsibility for what is happening. In other words, this is a negative thinking and it should be gradually replaced with a positive one.

Learn to say "No" to the people around you. Start small, for example, in order to refuse sellers in stores. When saying “No” to your interlocutor, it is important to remember that your interlocutor may have negative feelings - anger, resentment, etc. They can be used as manipulation to get you to agree with the persuader. Therefore, in spite of them, firmly stand your ground. For example, when breaking up with a man who is not suitable for you, do not make contact. A person needs to endure the bitterness of loss, pain is a manifestation of love for him, since it passes with time.

Don't be afraid to take responsibility. Expand your comfort zone. Start with small tasks, then move on to bigger ones. For example, sign up for training courses and get a new profession. Take on a new work order and do the assigned task "100%". All of this will help you build your self-confidence.

Keep a diary. In it, mark both victories and mistakes, which you should pay attention to next time so as not to make the wrong choice. Review your notes regularly so that you don't forget what you once did.

Formulate your life goals and proceed to consistently achieve them. Take responsibility for setting these goals for yourself. On the correct setting of goals on our website there is a separate one.

Realize the benefits that gives you loose behavior, irresponsibility. This is a difficult to implement, but very important point. Many do not understand that it is beneficial for them to remain small children, get sick or avoid something, because. such behavior attracts a lot of attention in relation to oneself, sympathy and support. Over time, you must learn to act and make independent decisions, regardless of whether others approve of them or treat them negatively.